"I want a girl that won't lecture me because I listen to death metal, or watch "bad" movies, or drag me to all her church activities. I have no problem with Christians, it's just not me."
Well, for starters, if you're only 20, then you're hardly a fully-formed adult male ready to settle down. And if you're anything like the 20 years olds I know, you're hardly husband material for any woman, yet!
If you just want to meet girls to date, then meet them at Death Metal concerts. Meet them at bad movies at the Multiplex, and stear clear of church gatherings.
Just sit down and think about this a little. I think, since you have no frame of reference to draw upon at this tender age, you're lumping people into one end of the spectrum or the other. No one is going to be exactly like you. And if they are...how bor-ing! I mean, it's nice to have basic things in common, but think of all you could learn from someone else when they introduce you to new ideas, hobbies, political views, etc. Not being mean, just asking you to think about a few things that might help you out.
No one is attractive when they're self-absorbed. And 20 years olds are very self-absorbed. I used to be one, too! You may actually be repelling women that are attracted to you due to your rigidity against religion. When you state, "Well, it's just not ME to be a Christian," they're deleting you from their mind and address book as you speak and you end up being someone they don't want to date more than once. You're shooting yourself in the foot.
Give yourself time to grow up, hone your likes, dislikes, moral values, etc. Keep your mind and options open. Things will work out for you. :)
That's true. I am only 27 but what I know now vs. at age 20 is amazing.