Posted on 12/20/2004 6:41:03 AM PST by kerouacbal
I am 26 years old and have been married for 2 years. I am having trouble growing up and I am driving my wife nuts. It has gotten to the point that my wife talks about divorce almost every day. I want to work this out more then I every wanted anything but I can't seem to do it or do it quick enough. I can't seem to remember consistently to do every day things like take out the garbage make sure all the doors are locked and the heat is off at night (there is a lot more but won't get into it all). I am posting this here to try to get some advise on how to help my self grow up and start to take care of my wife and son better like a husband should. My parents are dead and I don't have a close family member or friend to get advise from. Could someone please help me.
if you ride like that pic, then you won't be a problem for long. that sort of thing makes all us riders look bad.
The boy needs help, not foolish comments... And in case you missed it, there's a child involved.
Divorce has ruined more than just familes...it has destroyed America and commonly held values.
I believe there is one child.
I, from the old school, had to suck it up without asking for help and figure out how to make my marriage work. I think it is grand to be able to do what he is doing.
He has the intelligence to pick through these post and toss out what looks like hokey to him. What is he again 26? He ain't no baby.
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Becky
You've got that right. I fought hard for rider's rights here in PA.
Now these "extreme riders" are piling up stats that are going to be used to beat our heads in.
Just Plain Stupid.
What a horrible answer. Shame on you.
Dan
"An amazingly NON-gallant reply from someone posting on FR as "Sir Gawain".
:) Hehe!
Then give him some advice and quit policing my posts.
The only observation I can offer with my years of experience is this: As soon as the word "divorce" is put on the table, send her on her way and cover yourself as best you can with respect to your children and your continued relationship with them. She is going to go one way or another. If you have children, don't let her move away with them. I don't mean necessarily try to win custody (although 'joint custody' is more commonly granted these days than it used to be), but do all you can to insure that she doesn't move them out of state, for example.
The kids are the only thing that matter, but she's likely to take advantage of your weakened emotional state to take all she can and you'll fall for it thinking that it shows that you're 'growing up', etc., etc. And, that's fine when it comes to material things, but, once she gets the kids away and finds the man with whom she wants to create her "fantasy family", you can't get them back.
Trust me - it's a fight which is more than worth it, but it's long and it ain't easy.
Somebody needs to smack you really good across the face and pull the plug on your internet and your Playstation 2. Grow up and get a life you selfish little @$$hole. Let the wife and kid go home to her parents to restart their own life. They will be better off if you stayed away and you separated early. That gives the soon-to-be ex a chance to find a real husband and father for her child.
Whiney little boy, no wonder she's miserable...
I think you used to live next door to us.
Leave her. She sounds like a real bitch. If you've only been married for 2 years and it's already like this, no sense in wasting anymore time on her. There are (literaly) 100's of single women out there who will treat you with respect, as long as it's returned. Go find em.
They are funny, aren't they?
Unfortunately the statistics lean your way. If she wants to leave you will have to learn to rebound.
LOL!
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