~sigh~ Corin has another dilemma.
Just got word that a friend from high school died yesterday. She beat breast cancer a number of years ago. About a year or so ago she found it had returned and had spread to the brain.
I've actually known her since before we all started school. Her husband was one of my best buddies in high school. But I haven't seen them since our 20th reunion (8 years ago)
My dilemma is whether or not to go to the funeral tomorrow. RT would be about 10 hours. Of course tomorrow is the day the Stormhands' Christmas Extravaganza hits the neighborhood (lights go up).
Am I a bad friend because I think the trip would be too much?
Or am I a bad friend for not going sooner?
Don't mean to be a downer on this happy day. And I'm not really down. Her faith was always strong. We know she's home now.
I just need to decide what to do.
I'm sorry Corin...
If it were me, and there were people still living that I would like to see there, then I would want to go if I could. If you wouldn't expect to know anyone there, perhaps not. But it is the people still living that would miss you, or not, at this point.
We'll be checking in from up at the beach house, when we get there ;~D
I think in this case sending flowers and sympathy might be enough. Ten hours' travel is reasonable for family or close current friends but I'm not sure you should feel obligated to go in this case.
That's just MHO, of course.
No, IMO. Your first obligation is to the living and you already have important plans with them. Your friend is in a place where they can see what's in your heart and it's not necessary for you to show up physically to show how you feel. If you went it would be mainly to support your friends' living relatives, so you have to weigh that against your obligations to your own family, IMO.