Posted on 04/10/2024 6:39:27 AM PDT by Enterprise
Increasingly, politics are an obvious sign of life values and reasonableness. If a woman believes in pregnant men - RUN! If a man believes in women with dicks - RUN! You aren’t dealing with SANE people - and democrats have all bought in to the insanity.
A single woman who is a Democrat is almost always bat-shit crazy. One might find the 1 in 100 who isn’t, but why bother?
And if you ask them what they think a quality man “deserves” ... crickets.
MarQ
Sorry, but I don’t care what your politics are, if you LEAD your identity as your politics.... then you have issues, seriously deep issues... and I don’t care what side of the political aisle you are on.
I don’t need to ask you a political question to find out if you are a political extremist on either side of the aisle.. its pretty easy to spot with casual conversation.
You are free to decide how to engage with others in a first date scenario however you like, but not a chance in hell if I’m on a first date I’m discussing politics... I don’t need to ask political affiliations to find out where someones values are beliefs are.
Someone who’s defined themselves by their political ideology, are all CRAZY PEOPLE, I don’t care what side of the aisle they are on.
If you define your identity, WHO YOU ARE AS A PERSON, and the main or a primary part of your self identity is your politics, to a point where that’s how you lead in describing yourself to others in any social setting, you have some serious, serious problems... like deep seated emotional and intellectual problems... and I don’t care if you are a conservative or liberal... if that’s how you define yourself as a major part, if not the primary part of your personal “identity”... you really really really should seek professional help.
Many women get to live a dream life in their 20s and fulfill the promise offered by Sex and the City. This only becomes a problem when biology hits and the dates dry up.
Bingo. A LOT of women spend their 20s turning down guys who would have been good choices for them because they are very unrealistic about where they stand. They REFUSE to see reality until it hits them in the face when they turn 30 and men's interest in them falls off a cliff. Only then do they start to get realistic - but by then, its too late. Then they get bitter. The ones they should be bitter toward are the Feminazis who encouraged them to make such bad choices in their 20s.
The article correctly notes that college-educated women technically have fewer options because a smaller number of men obtain university degrees. However, none of the women profiled in the article find the men at college up to their expectations.
The studies show that young women currently find a statistically impossible 80% of men "below average". Why do women in college have "fewer options"? Oh. That's right! Because women want men who make more money than they do. Ergo those guys in trade school they deem not good enough for them.
They [women] want a guy who makes more than them
OK feminists....should society go back to tilting the scales so that most men make more than most women? You're dead set against that. The outcome then is going to be that there are fewer men that women consider up to their standards.....which then causes women to complain about that. Its one or the other. Choose.
Due to occasional matches, a majority of women believe they can obtain a guy from this small demographic. Society tells them to not settle for anything less, and they stay single in the hopes of one day getting chad to propose.
Attractive women in their prime (early-to-mid 20s) also have a similar level of abundance and don’t want to settle down either. Family would get in the way of their lifestyle. Their mind changes as soon as they hit 30, yet they’re now less capable of getting the man they think they deserve.
Yes....women are by and large unrealistic in their 20s, turn down guys who would have been good choices while unrealistically pursuing men who are out of their league. They don't wise up until their youth is all gone and they don't have much to offer from men's perspectives.
The 30-something chads will eventually want to settle down, but they want a girl in her early-to-mid 20s (this reality motivates women’s rage over age gap relationships).
Its not just 30 something "chads". Its all men. That includes men who were getting turned down by those very same women when both were in their 20s but who now having gotten their education and established themselves in their careers (and developed the self confidence that goes with accomplishing things), are now much more attractive to women. Only both groups of men simply do not want women who are past their prime - and the latter group of guys especially do not want women who spent a decade turning them down for dates.
Women can get as angry about the biological reality as they want, but men are always going to want younger women in the same way that women are going to want richer/higher status men. It seems like there is a very easy answer here. Women need to be encouraged to go for men in their 20s who look like they are on the ball and will be successful even if they haven't gotten there yet. That's what women used to do....before feminazis filled their heads with some incredibly foolish and ultimately self defeating ideas about how they could piss away their most valuable asset - their youth - and not suffer any consequences for it.
uhh no. For the vast majority of you, just no. You're not. Try getting remotely realistic first. If you did that you'd discover there are lots of guys who rate about as well as you do if not even higher who you could have in your 20s. THE key is waking up to that fact before all your youth is gone. By then they both won't be looking at you as much AND they will realize you don't really want to be with them any more than you did the last 10 years. You're just feeling desperate and are thus all the more likely to not really be committed to a marriage and to divorce him. So "hell no" for both reasons.
Not surprised, and it’s not just women in their 30’s. Divorced women in their 40’s and older think the same way. Finding any woman with good traditional values at any age is difficult.
Not impossible, difficult.
I call my ex Satan too, Lol!!!
You hit the nail on the head....except you left out the rest which is "then you'll find yourself in your early to mid 30s and the same women who turned you down will want to *catch up* with you and will all but throw themselves at you.....only you of course won't want them anymore because you will want what they were rather than what they are now - which will leave them very pissed off.
ask me how I know. I've only seen it a million times.
Why buy the cow when the milk is free? Is the whole quote—i guess not as well-known as I had thought it would be!
Used to be said to young women who gave “the milk” away for free.
I'm a Catholic convert. I met my (witty, pretty) wife through some extremely witty Catholic friends. She and I have raised five kids seriously Catholic, and have always maintained a lot of like-minded friends. Since the dioceses in our neck of the woods started offering the Latin Mass, we've mostly been going to that rite. And we home-schooled our kids when they were young--then seriously Catholic secondary schools. They grew up within a huge network of home-schooled Catholic kids. The picnics and sports events typically draw a couple of hundred people or more. Yes--there are a lot of big families with vans.
Our kids have either gone to a no-kidding Catholic college or to whatever was best for their academic specialty (while living off-campus with a sane roommate and going to Mass regularly).
Eldest 3 daughters married either right out of college or within a year of graduation, to great Catholic guys who are great fathers to our grandkids. Youngest boy and girl are still in college, with like-minded friends and dates.
All I can attribute this to--thus far!--is that we are affectionate, keep reasonable order and a sense of humor at home, keep our faith at the center of our lives, and avoid crappy schools and crazy people. What's that expression? Work like it's all up to you; pray (accurately) like it's all up to God.
Accordingly: Please pray for us. We'll pray for you.
I was backstage at a Travis Tritt concert. (My radio station had the “presets” on the show) We started talking about marriage. Travis said, “Paul, I have found the solution to marriage. Every ten years, I will find a woman that I cannot stand, and buy her a house.”
Nothing in this country will change until people turn back to God.
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BINGO
The marriage crisis is ultimately rooted in modern America’s hyperindividualism. …False. It’s rooted in the communist dogma of “abolition of the family”.
How is that even possible?! I mean: mathematically.
There are roughly as many men between 18 and 35 as there are women between 18 and 35 - so how could there be more men complaining about a lack of prospects than there are women complaining about a lack of prospects?
It just doesn't figure!
/mordant sarcasm
Regards,
Young women today can get attention from above average wealthy men from anywhere in the world thanks to social media. Local young men can’t compete.
That being said.... I look back on the women I was interested in back in high school and college, pre social media days, and thank God I never fell in that trap. I very much enjoyed my days of solitude versus what I have seen with people in miserable marriages.
No, the marriage market would be perfectly harmonious and stable if women at their peak SMV (Sexual Marketplace Value) - i.e., between 18 and 24 - would set their sights exclusively on men in their peak (earning) years - i.e., between 32 and 40.
If the young women would pair up and wed the older, good-earning men, there would be a good 1-to-1 correspondence, with no glut of unhappy, unmarried women nearing menopause.
Of course, you'd still have a large population of men in their prime years, going unnoticed (because they haven't yet established themselves) - but that is the way it has been throughout most of human history. These men have consoled themselves with the thought that, eventually, their time would come.
Regards,
Hey, cut the guy some slack! He isn't really "leading" with his "political identity." Rather, he is simply making use of a handy little algorithm or "acid test," if you will, to "weed out" undateables from the get-go.
Of course, he could engage in some fancy wordplay and/or pose a few select questions that would probably yield basically the same end-results, but why not be more honest? More direct?
I am an ardent Trump supporter - yet I'd never wear a MAGA hat or otherwise "lead" with that political identity. However, if it would save me even only the cost of a single dinner with an unsufferably "woke" girl, I'd show up at every first date wearing one.
Do you realize that it might take months of dating before finally finding out that the girl you're courting has upwards of $100,000 of student debt (that you would, in effect, be expected to pay off)? Yes, the fact that she's majoring in "Underwater Basket-Weaving" should have been a clue - but stating a few simple facts early in the game could save a lot of time - for both parties!
Regards,
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