Posted on 09/24/2023 4:38:51 AM PDT by where's_the_Outrage?
Poor actions always have poor consequences. Here’s an incident that revolves around similar plot!
A netizen recently asked, “Am I a jerk for suing my girlfriend after she had my 1967 Impala project taken to the scrapyard?”. We need you to find out!
The Original Poster (OP) had a 1967 Impala 4 door that he bought in Feb 2019. A couple of months ago he bought his first house that had a 2.5 acre car garage. OP moved the car in and started tearing it down for a complete restoration.
“I had the body in one bay and the chassis in another, plus the whole garage filled with parts.”, says OP.
About two months ago, OP’s girlfriend came to live with him during this whole crisis and the whole time has hated that car. She wants to park in the garage, but OP has 2 acres of land with a lot of nice places to park under shady trees or hell even in the barn if it has to be inside.
“I tell her tough luck it’s my house and it’s not like I can just throw it back together real quick.”, says OP.
Anyways, OP was out of town for a couple of days on a business trip for the small local company he works for.
When OP got back, his girlfriend was all smiles. Making him food all the time, doing all the chores, all that. OP thought maybe she was just happy to have him home but then he realized that he didn’t see her car in its usual spot.
OP asked her where she parked so he could make sure he mowed that area and keep it clean and she said not to worry because she parked in the garage. OP asked how and she told him to go check it out.
Turns out that while OP was gone, she hired some people to come over and move everything related to that car, including the drive-train, body, chassis and all parts, and take it to the local dump/scrapyard. OP was absolutely dumbfounded.
“I had spent over 11k on that car including new parts, services, and the car itself.”, says OP.
OP told her that he was going to be taking her to court for that and she brushed him off like he was being dramatic. OP told her that it was done between them and to pack her things and leave.
“I admit I was really angry but I did end up getting a lawyer. As I have all the receipts for all that money spent and I have her on my house’s security camera footage letting the guys in and watching them take it all I think I can win.”, says OP.
The girlfriend’s family and friends are absolutely blowing OP up saying it’s just a stupid old piece of junk that she cannot pay back all that money OP spent, and that he should just let it go.
“But I have been putting all my time, effort, and money into that car for a year and a half now and imagine now even getting justice for what she did. Am I a jerk?”, asks OP.
Not the jerk. Relationship-wise: this was a gross overstep on her part just to get her way on something minor. Ending the relationship immediately was the right thing to do.
Legal wise: Don’t destroy something you can’t afford to replace. Take her down, let her pay it off over the next few years.”
“Not the jerk. That is messed up and I can’t believe anyone is defending that behavior. I mean maybe if you were married for years and that stuff had been sitting around for like 10 years or something and it was also her house I could see an argument…but none of that is the case here. I would be livid. Wow just wow. Yeah unless she can get it all back somehow she owes you.”
There’s a lot of guys that have been convinced that putting up with this is “being a good guy”. It’s not. It’s just a form of abuse and it is VERY common. Women don’t beat you physically, they find other means and, as it usually isn’t “breaking the law”, they get away with it...which just reinforces the behavior.
My father-in-law lost his first wife to cancer. He remarried a woman who turned out to be a sociopathic abuser.
She convinced him to sell all of his rental real estate and lake lots. Living in a community property state gave her joint ownership.
She took money from their joint bank account (his money) and built a brand new house behind his back, furnished it and moved out suddenly.
She also took hundreds of thousands of dollars from him.
He says now, “It was worth every penny to get rid of her.”
You would think she'd understand, and even appreciate having an alpha male boyfriend. Some women are messed up.
OP asked her where she parked so he could make sure he mowed that area and keep it clean and she said not to worry because she parked in the garage.
And he's considerate, too. I wish him the best of luck with his lawsuit.
Ah ha! Thanks.
Yup. Someone else said same. Thanks.
Nobody wants to collect 4 door 60’s cars. Or 50’s 2-door cars for that matter.
Fixed. 4 Doors no bueno.
Ugly:
Same model on is very collectible and nice to look at at the other is sh!t.
okay sorry! there are more than a few men here who seem wrapped around the axle about mommy.
I agree this girl, or anybody, should not mess with someone elses stuff.
I bought a ‘65 Impala in 1973 for $500 and drove it a quarter-million miles.
Cheap lesson for the dude to stay away from the girl.
But the cost in suit, I’d imagine, would be the price of the car for the condition it was in. Not the retail price of every part that he smartly or stupidly bought and installed.
At 10 mpg (on a good day ) you used 25,000 gallons of fuel in the process.
She messed up big time. LAWWWSUUUUUUUUIT…….
He’s absolutely within his legal rights to sue her… what an absolute brat of a woman.
Yeah Judy, the guy got off light. That woman was going to cost him far more than $11K.
I discovered you can rebuild your collection if you so desire, by spending a few days in Cooperstown. That town is loaded with card and memorabilia shops.
I said, "sorry Mom, but there aren't many blue eyed blondes in El Paso."
We've been married 36 years.
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