Posted on 06/05/2023 4:29:19 AM PDT by ViLaLuz
A prayer request for all Freeper prayer warriors for children emotionally/ psychologically abused by a sociopathic malignant narcissist parent. That parent lost custody a couple years ago for that abuse, but had since continued the abuse and harassing petitions because the judge didn't rule in her favor. ...
When you say she lost custody, is this permanent custody, if so I have no idea why this is still ongoing. Does she have visitation rights and if so, are they supervised? So who permitted (had to have been a judge, as a judge has the only power to stop that) these kids from “taking the stand” which is terrible. In my experience, there are only a few people who have far more testimonial credibility than anyone in a child custody matter. Teachers, psychologists, Guardian Ad Litems, and sometimes child protective services, Is there a reunification plan in place with this mother, if so, has she passed or failed?
Yeah, sometimes I do.
I see in the addition to your profile from a few moments ago that today, June 5th, is the very anniversary of your exodus from New Orleans.
“Sadly, today (5 June 2009) Because of Katrina, I sadly changed my state from Louisiana to Texas...”
Yes the final order was permanent. The case is ongoing because the the mother keeps filing vexatious content petitions. She now has a few hours a week of unsupervised visitation. Under the temporary order it was supervised, and we requested to continue supervised visitation, but she threatened the judge with discrimination and he granted her unsupervised visitation. The judge allowed the children on the stand twice, but he told the mother it was wrong for her to keep bringing them to court. He put it on her. So she wants to do it again and is trying to force the issue. Please pray the judge prevents this. It would just be a rehash of an ongoing rehash. Please pray the judge puts a stop to this once and for all. Pray for his protection against her rage as well.
There was a reunification plan but she refuses to participate in anything she can’t control. The children are in counseling though and it’s helping them a lot. She wants to put a stop to all of it.
Oh my gosh... had it been that long??? It’s hard to believe. Katrina was much earlier but it took me a long time to accept we couldn’t return to Louisiana. We are temporarily in Pennsylvania for the sake of the children, but can’t wait to return to Texas.
Psalm 125 “Those who trust in the Lord are as secure as Mount Zion; they will not be defeated but will endure forever. Just as the mountains surround Jerusalem, so the Lord surrounds his people, both now and forever. The wicked will not rule the land of the godly, for then the godly might be tempted to do wrong. O Lord, do good to those who are good, whose hearts are in tune with you. But banish those who turn to crooked ways, O Lord. Take them away with those who do evil. May Israel have peace!”
Praying that God will intervene to completely protect the children in and give wisdom to the judge presiding in the court case .
Thank you Sister.
Isaiah 54:17 “But in that coming day no weapon turned against you will succeed. You will silence every voice raised up to accuse you. These benefits are enjoyed by the servants of the Lord; their vindication will come from me. I, the Lord, have spoken!”
You’ve been posting for almost 24 hours straight. How do you do that!?
Mainly because of Jesus I got custody. Another reason is relevant to reducing the stupid lawfare she kept doing. While she had "temporary" custody (3.5 years of the kids' lives in a long time, not "temporary") I ran out of money paying an attorney, paying her child support, and paying the kids' insurance. So I couldn't keep paying an attorney, who hardly represented me anyway. And this was my 2nd attorney because I had fired the first one for being a nothing burger. Having no attorney (in legal-ease, I became "pro se") at first seemed like a disadvantage, but it turned out to be an advantage. Basically, from then on I could sling out the ridiculous court motions and requests with little cost to me but large costs to her. And the lawfare she slung my way hurt her more than me (she was the only one with attorney costs). So by the time we had the hearing that ultimately decided permanent custody, both of us were pro se because she was out of money. And with both of us attorney-less, I was at an advantage because she constructed all of her arguments out of rage and venom like she was talking to her mother about me instead of trying to convince the judge to go her way.
Then when I got custody, she did some of the lawfare but it was uneventful. Especially when I'd do it back to her and I kept winning. I eventually told her that if she didn't keep adding drama I'd file a motion to raise her child support to me. That made her stupid lawfare come to a full stop, which took away a lot of the drama she was putting into the kids. By then, one of my kids had been indoctrinated into the divorce arguing and liked to argue a lot with me and make up lies to call the police on me. He and I still haven't reconciled. But the other kid, after I got custody, adopted our lifestyle of loving God and everybody in both sides of his family. And after I remarried and put together a blended family (picking a spouse not full of venom towards her ex because I was afraid a woman like that would one day have that venom towards me), he acclimated quite well into the new family and loves all of us: his step-family, me and the rest of his paternal family, and also loves his biological mother and her family.
Now that all of them are grown and moved out (thank you, Jesus LOL), only the one doesn't come visit or answer our calls. I'm believing the day will come when the Lord will move him to turn to Him, and he'll remember who taught him eternal things when he was young.
Oh my. Unsupervised visitation is absurd with this history. So it sounds like this case is not being conducted “in the best interest of the children” which is the legal standard, instead it is being conducted in the best interest of the mother, So if there was a reunification plan that she refused to participate in, that should have been a dead end for her. Not knowing the terms of the plan, but typically, the parent should be court ordered to participate in her own counseling, supervised by CPS, weekly up to an entire year. Honestly, it sounds like the judge is somewhat of a bleeding heart and has a responsibility and the AUTHORITY to end this immediately. The permanent ruling must be made with a firm GAVEL, for this judge and CPS to continue what sounds like a charade is malpractice and damaging these kids possibly beyond repair. Best wishes.
Even though you haven’t specifically named the people involved, discussing these children’s situation in an online forum is totally out of line & inappropriate, IMO.
Under the thin disguise of asking strangers for “prayers” YOU are simply venting your anger & badmouthing the mother, in an anonymous safe space, in exchange for support & affirmation of YOUR side of YOUR story, presented very manipulatively, without any alternative view allowed.
Which of course makes me wonder what the mother’s side of the story REALLY is.
Plus, I wonder what other sly stuff you might be saying or doing in real life, which might well be contributing to real, & negative, consequences for these children.
Does that mean you're planning to take the children to Texas?
Sadly, this crap has become commonplace among deranged exes of either sex, due to the "no-fault" divorce industry (a bonanza for lawyers), preceded by the lack of religious values in our "dating" culture, and the unfashionableness of long engagements with counsel from both families for at least a year before slamming the door and releasing the true colors. Sexual "liberation" has liberated the devil, who makes many fools his playground.
Responsible spouses suffer; no-fault provides no justice to the wronged partner, and plunges the children into endless struggle between two people who could not get along in the first place.
That said, prayer does help, and I've prayed for your loved ones. We must trust God, who has promised never to leave us, with His plan for the children—no matter the outcome of this next assault of legalized torture.
If any of the principals are not saved, I do pray that they surrender to the Lordship of the Savior of Mankind, that their prayers will be effective. In His holy name, amen.
National LIbrary of Medicine:
Child Affected by Parental Relationship Distress [CAPRD]
...a disorder finally recognized in the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition)
For obvious reasons, given the sensitivity of the situation and the need for objectivity. Why do you feel entitled to pry?
Since you posted your opinion on a public forum, understand that others can judge your communications on the same basis that you have judged the OP. One clue often seen in emotion-driven, suspicious-minded and negative conclusion-jumpers is the use of black’n’white or extreme language instead of logical, reasonable, gray-area exploration. In your post, the words “totally”, “simply”, “very” are immediate “tells”, in addition to the demonstrably negative accusations, including scare quotes around the word prayer, and shout caps of the second person pronoun.
None of us knows the facts; but the poster does, and more importantly, God does. In the at least 50-50 chance that the OP’s version is close to true, of what benefit is it to assume the negative rather than encourage the positive, including invoking the help of Spirit, who is most certainly aware of the eternal truths of every heart in this situation, and can’t be mocked?
This Forum is a reliable source for objective opinions from a mostly conservative, God-ackowledging readership. In a Free republic, anyone who asks can take advice or leave it alone. So there’s no harm in asking, especially for prayers.
May God heal whatever triggered you in this story.
There are many experienced veterans of divorce and custody suits among FR’s older people, who came of age through the aftermath of the so-called Sexual Revolution of the 1960s, wherein all caution was thrown to the winds, established courtship customs were thrown out, and the destruction of the family (a prime marxist goal‚ was unleashed with a fury on formerly naïve Americans. If people want to help, where’s the problem with invoking God?
Only God can fix this; and apparently, only one contested custody action at a time, as long as Democrats run everything.
Amen and amen.
IMO, your observations makes good sense.
Their original post seems odd and one-sided.
Reading between their lines tells me something different than what they are saying....
Yes, Dr. Bernet is the expert in CAPRD. Anyone interested in his paper can download it here:
http://www.herverbinden.nl/images/pub-rap/Bernet%20et%20al.%20-%20CAPRD%20-%202016-07.pdf
Thanks. God bless the children in this struggle, and in all contested custody situations. It’s wicked.
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