Posted on 11/18/2016 5:32:22 PM PST by grundle
Men who want to have sex with women who aren't interested in taking pills or getting abortions need to strap it up, wrap it up, or get a vasectomy.
When I was 24, I decided against using hormonal birth control or getting an abortion unless absolutely medically necessary. At that time, I was dating and having sex with a man for about six months. We always used condoms, but that did not completely eliminate the possibility that I could become pregnant if we slipped up. So, I figured I was obligated to tell him about the choices I'd made.
“If I get pregnant, abortion isn’t going to be an option, OK?” I turned what should have been a statement into a question and I don’t know why. Maybe to make it more palatable for him? To make it seem as if he had a choice in the matter when he didn’t really? I also told him that I would not ever take the pill. It was, after all, my body.
He was not particularly happy about my revelations.
“But I’m really not ready for kids,” he responded shrewdly.
I shrugged and told him that I wasn’t either and that meant we should be extra-careful.
My response was not enough to settle his concerns, though. He still felt very troubled, and it even became a point of contention in our relationship. He felt as if I was taking away some hypothetical choice from him, and, of course, taking away the freedom to occasionally have unprotected sex without repercussion.
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So you were having sex with a boy, not a man. Be more discerning
Thank you for sharing your most personal intimate sexual preferences, but why should we care to take advice from a nobody?
Ditto.
I always give respect to ladies who don’t abort an inconvenient child. Been known to even help out a few financially that were abandoned by their ‘BOYfriends”.
But I do thank God that I never had to make such decisions on a personal basis.
I wonder what her reaction would be if the guy said “fine, I like kids.”
As for male birth control, I would be very, very careful what you wish for. Women are completely and utterly screwed in all senses of the word when that happens.
“But I’m really not ready for kids,” he responded shrewdly. //
Then don’t have sex.
MrR always says the sexual revolution freed the men first.
This was an interesting article. Food for thought for both sexes.
I got into a debate with a woman who was going on and on defending abortion then out of nowhere said “but I am glad my mother didn’t abort me”
I responded with, ‘but is she? is she really?’
She stopped talking after that.
Of course I know women who have abortions always regret it (no matter what they blather), but she made that statement without even thinking she was supporting taking away that ability from others (those killed) to even say that.
MrR and I have only evern been with each other, we did use some birth control early on in our marriage (when we were still in college) but never had to worry if it failed because we were married. We never worried about STD, or anything else like that.
The concept of ‘get married, stay faithful’ is lost on people.
you do not need to have sex with everything with 2.5 legs. and you can learn what days sex won’t result in babies, too
just saying that your essay does not engender a great deal of sympathy, albeit it does sound like some of the “men” you’ve been bedding are deserving of you (and vice-versa)
Whore Alert!
Wait....is there such a thing on FR?
We usually alert Lazamataz.
My husband and I talked about children, family and pretty much everything else before we got married.
If you don’t want to have a baby with someone, you shouldn’t be having sex with them.
Abortion hasn’t given women freedom, nor has it liberated them.
It HAS liberated men from any responsibility though.
If a man won’t respect a woman’s wishes, then she should drop him.
I worked at a crisis pregnancy center for years.
Generally, if the dad wanted to keep the baby, the baby was kept. If he didn’t, it wasn’t.
There were a handful of exceptions, both ways. Counseled a couple of anguished men whose kids were killed and they could do nothing about it. Also many women who did not want the father to even know, one night stands, flings, that sort of thing.
Counseled. . . TWO married women. TWO.
Conclusion: Wait until you are married to have sex and a lot less children will die.
>>>And quite frankly, he was flattering himself; he was not my number-one procreation partner pick. <<<
It’s statements like that, that made me have a difficult time trusting another woman after my divorce. I hear women talk about men, relationships and sex in ways that scream red flag. Unfortunately it’s my perception that most women are waving these red flags.
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