That problem was solved quite a few years ago in our household. After years of racking our respective brains and buying some objects that went unused, the husband and I agreed that it’s dumb to buy each other gifts.
We show our love, instead, by doing small favors for and saying nice things to each other. I highly recommend it.
“the husband and I agreed that it’s dumb to buy each other gifts.”
The wife and I have been the same way for 28 years.
She keeps the books for the house, and anything I would try and surprise her with, was an abject failure.
We decided for Christmas, Anniversaries, etc. to buy a gift we both want, and can use together.
We surprise each other with a planned activity that the other didn’t help plan.