Posted on 03/14/2003 1:54:15 PM PST by hoosierskypilot
I fell in love with my husband-to-be when I was 14, no doubt about it. How did I know it was love? I didnt. But my adolescent instincts proved accurate. We married as teenagers and are now celebrating our 43rd anniversary 43 years of undying love. So much for 14-year-olds not knowing how they feel.
I came from a family with strong values. Right was right and wrong was wrong; good was good and bad was bad. By the time I was 10 years old, I knew as surely as Elizabeth Smart knew from her Mormon upbringing what was right and what was wrong.
And for many years now, I have been a psychotherapist and what I have learned from my patients complicated lives is that appearances dont count.
I remember one young woman, the daughter of a librarian and schoolteacher, who grew up in a suburban home of the most conventional values. Her presenting symptom was dissatisfaction with her job, but I soon learned that she dated men who picked her up when she stopped at a light and even met a man, at midnight, who had called the wrong number and gotten her instead.
Little Ms. Conventional, it turned out, craved the fast life, the life of risk and escape from her mundane background.
I had another patient who married her psychoanalyst. But before that, as a teenager, she spent endless nights at crap tables in Las Vegas, loving every minute. And as a grown-up married woman, as she described herself, she said that her happiest memories in life were of dressing up and being there when the highest stakes were on the line.
So, clearly, stereotypes of 14-year-old innocents even presented by experts using the most sophisticated psychobabble or crime-fighters using the most impressive profiling data leave a lot to the imagination.
Lets consider one possible Elizabeth Smart scenario. Brian David Mitchell, the drifter (and probably grifter) who paraded through Salt Lake City as Emmanuel, the God-fearing evangelist out to save misguided souls, met young Elizabeth Smarts mother on the street, where he solicited a handout from the inveterate do-gooder.
It wasnt enough for her to hand him five dollars; she also invited him to earn more money by fixing the roof of her home, which he did one sunny afternoon in 2001.
Thats the truth, but lets start to imagine what happened next. The charismatic Mitchell bumped in to the nubile Elizabeth. They talked. He was charming. She was smitten. And although his work was done, they both managed to communicate with each other outside the home over a period of time.
Finally, he might have said: I want you to come with me, to leave your boring existence where your father sheds crocodile tears and your mother is a stone to live a more exciting life, of God, of costumes, of travel, of freedom.
She may have had doubts, but she finally agreed to an escape that left her sympathetic in the eyes of her family but, at the same time, free to live the exciting life she craved.
And true to her expectations, what ensued was more thrilling than she had imagined. She heard people calling out her name but never answered back. She agreed to wear a costume in public that camouflaged her face but she never bolted from her captors as she had innumerable opportunities to do.
Even when she was caught by police officers this week and had the perfect chance to fly into their protective arms, she lied about her identity and denied being the Elizabeth Smart whose picture they showed her.
Oh, thats the girl who ran away, she said. And when finally exposed, she asked first, not about her parents or her siblings, but about what would happen to the people with whom she had spent the last nine months.
And what about the so-called forensic evidence that experts said proved she was kidnapped, the screen that had been cut in the window of her home (a screen that was too narrow for most adults to squeeze through and that showed no fibers, no DNA, no nothing).
And what about the door that was unlocked, the one that other forensic experts insisted the intruder had both entered and exited? Who unlocked that door? Certainly not Elizabeth Smarts parents!
And what about Elizabeths 8-year-old sister, Mary Katherine, who waited for over two hours to tell her mother and father about her older sisters so-called abduction? Isnt it credible or at least possible that Elizabeth entrusted her little sister, who idolized her, with her secret, assured her that she would be fine, and instructed her to not say a word until two hours had elapsed?
And what about Elizabeths demeanor after she was found? Why didnt the experts concentrate on her obviously well-fed, away-from-home sabbatical? Her serenity? The relief one might have expected from a hostage?
And what about her familys reaction her fathers unconvincing tears and his all-too-eager willingness to go before media cameras and live broadcasts, and, as always, her mothers cool reaction? Even during the first hours and on the first day that Elizabeth came home!
Brian Mitchell is, by any measure, a creep (as is his wife). But Elizabeth Smart clearly was attracted to this creep because he offered her a safe but exciting escape from her stultifying life.
My bet is that she will fit in once more to the Smart household. But when given the chance to escape again, she will fly the coop with joy but this time without the entire world speculating, erroneously, on her motives.
Good luck, Elizabeth!
This whole article is speculation, and it is presented as such.
If Elizabeth was taken forcibly, she will be vindicated way before Mitchell is tried and convicted.
I hope her folks get her in some good therapy, because she'll need it.
IF (and that's a big IF...) she was brainwashed, psychologically traumatized, etc., is it not possible that he/they could have convinced her that she "ran away" vs. being kidnapped....all a part of reprogramming her to fit what they wanted her to be and what they wanted her to think, so that if/when caught, this would let them off the hook? I think it's possible.
The irony.
Bravo. And if I were the father of a 15 year-old girl and the "unsubstantiated rumors" about her honor and reputation turned out to be true, I'd have a hard time keeping myself from "jacking her jaw."
If she doesn't need extensive psychiatric help after this, it would be a miracle.
I agree with you here. Regardless of how this happened, there will be behavior problems ahead.
However, once again FR falls into two distinct camps -
* One side, so desperate to believe in the inherent goodness of this girl, is convinced she is a victim. So convinced, that they vehemently attack anyone that suggests something different
* the other side, so convinced that the whole thing is a screen hiding the dark secrets of the family and the girl's true motives that they call into question the sanity of the other group
Right now, the two sides are tolerating each other. As this goes on (and once the trial starts) the level of discourse will get less and less hospitable until it degenerates into flat-out nastiness.
Once you don't take a side, it's pretty fun to watch.
This case is the business of the police, the courts and the jurors that will sit on the case, EVEN if the abduction is a fraud. If you had a daughter, I think you would want her to be shielded from public ridicule, even if she did something shameful. Maybe not.
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