Hence, the higher cost of health insurance and meds to cure what cheap sex caused.
It is not the “cheap sex”, it is the expensive divorce.
When I was a young adult woman, we didn’t make the guys wait-I didn’t know even one virgin by my 1st year of college-I guess some would say we were all a bunch of sluts-but most of us were not promiscuous, and we got engaged to a steady guy, married before or after graduation, had kids, house in the burbs, etc.
In the remote ranching area near the border where I grew up, when boys started to really notice the girls at maybe 14-15, dads took them to one of the fancier brothels across the river and had the boy pick a prostitute a few years older to show him what it was all about-common practice that we all knew about-no one thought much about it, and it was supposed to keep us respectable ranch girls virgin a bit longer. I don’t think it worked all that well, though-hormones are hormones...
Well, no, the leftists are whistling past the graveyard on that one. Cheap sex has always been around. Something else changed.
So, come on now, leftists. What changed? And, why are you pretending to be upset about it? Bad polling numbers?
Yeah.... it ain’t cheap sex that’s caused us to run away from marriage
When I come home, its quiet. I have a low tolerance for superfluous crap. Women used to be a lot smarter, particularly about what men would and would not tolerate. There’s something very nice about being able to take a woman home to her place after a date, a weekend, whatever.
I see no value added, and women used to be great at that. In my grandparents case, both sets, my grandfathers knew their wives were like compound interest. Today? Its more like automatic billpay.
I don’t think it is cheap sex, I think it is expensive marriage. If you have an iffy job and your girl wants to be treated like a princess, easier to just hook up.
No. American men are giving up on marriage because the risks outweigh the benefits.
Basically American women bring noting to marriage but misery, and are rewarded with an easy on-demand divorce with endless payments from the ex-husband. That is what young American men perceive.
With that perception, why would American men risk marriage?! "Cheap sex" is just a side issue.
We don’t marry just for sex.
I figured from the title they wouldn’t bother with the little detail of the effect of child custody laws, family court decisions, and no-fault divorces has on men. I suspect that they figure men only learn about the above (or at least make decisions based on the above) AFTER they’ve been screwed over.
Sorry, but it doesn’t work that way. Men know other men, which means they men who have been royally screwed over by women after getting married. I’ve told my boys to NEVER marry an American woman, as the odds are just massively stacked against a successful marriage.
Sex ain’t the reason. Women dressing and acting like either cheap sluts or truckers, and coming with a snotty and bratty entitlement attitude, are the prime reasons many men skip marriage.
Some guys are just to insecure and immature to marry a woman that has more sexual experience than they do. < /sarc >
The primary reason men and women do not marry is they neither love the LORD nor keep His commandments. Everything else is subsequent collateral damage.
I didn’t know prices were down. Marriage is a very expensive time consuming way to have sex.
This trend has been ramping up for the past 50 years or so.
It’s one of the many reasons America along with most other nations will be utterly destroyed by God very soon.
I find it ironic that North Korea is saber rattling their arsenal while we do nothing. Biblically speaking, many nations were destroyed over night. With the STD rates well over 50% in “young” Americans, you can see the writing on the wall with where this nation is going.
My late hubby and I were nerdy hippies. We decided to marry in the late 70’s for the wrong reason (our landlady would not rent to unmarried couples) but it was a good decision and we both knew we were “long term.” He recently passed away after a long illness he fought for two decades. As I age, I am not inclined to remarry. At least for now. There are huge benefits and rewards to marriage but also a variety of personal and financial costs to that legally binding commitment. To be honest I have begun taking a very long run view — I am seeing life-extension techniques and medical advances improving rapidly — and I want to preserve my economic resources in order to support my own potential longevity. I realize that sounds harsh but as I march toward old age and death, I do so with the much resistance and defiance. I cannot say that my outlook is shared by most people, but it does seem that many today, both young and old, think they will live much longer and, someday - indefinitely (i.e. “forever,” barring the odd accident with a big-rig), and so are taking a ‘longer view’ that may be shifting their focus from quickly snagging a spouse and starting a family in their 20s and 30s, toward longer term self investment and self development. [In other words, online porn and gold-digger divorcees are not necessarily the only causal forces at work, here, despite a book by a “sociologist” - whatever THAT is. (As an economist, I’m professionally obligated to make fun of that other discipline.)]
Certainly, sharing household expenses and daily living tasks with someone to whom you are legally committed in marriage can facilitate this personal goal but such jointly shared responsibilities can redound in the opposite direction as well (unfortunately). Though with a Ph.D., I won’t declare I’m a Leftist/feminist but I will say I’m glad to be able to access more opportunities and options (whether remarried or single) over time thanks to an education past high school. The institution of marriage remains absolutely essential and central to successful families, however, and ensures children will enjoy consistent, jointly-provided role modeling and irreplaceable moral and emotional support as they grow. Just my two cents.
The author implicitly asserts that men had/have no motivation in life beyond attaining sex. This is stupid. Men had authority and responsibility in their lives and family. Today their family’s can be takenjoyed away from them on a mere whim. Big difference.
Bm
Marriage is meant to be about a man and a woman having and raising a family together.