One more point: quoting 2 Peter 3:9 as a "proof" that God wants to save everybody is wrong, because (a) Not everyone is getting saved, and (b)This is proof, not of man's will being able to choose against God (for reasons I've already covered...in short, man ALREADY HAS rejected God), but it is proof of the fact that this verse does not mean what you want it to mean. The actual results we see in the world every day is proof that you interpret this verse wrongly.
If God wills something, shall it not come to pass?