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To: marshmallow

It works both ways. If women dress provocatively, then it assumed they intend to provoke, or at least to get attention. But I think there is quite a difference between a woman dressing attractively by modern standards and her looking as if she should be working on the streets.

Men, at least Christian men, also need to exert self-control. I went to vespers at an Orthodox church one time with a friend of mine who was distracted by an attractively-dressed woman who was there and, in our conversation afterward, he put all the blame on her. He said her attire reflected poorly on her. I pointed out to him that, while she looked very pretty, her attire wasn’t immodest, that she had a prayer rope on her wrist, that someone like her could be plenty of other places of a Saturday evening besides church, and the problem was more his than hers. He saw my point. I related my own experience with distraction. Also at vespers in a Greek church, I was near a young woman and her mother. They both looked as if they had just gotten off the boat from Greece — plain, long, black dresses, hair simply tied back, no makeup, heads covered with a veil. I found the young woman stunning, probably one of the most naturally-beautiful woman I have seen. She did nothing to draw attention to herself. That was all on me.

I remembered what a monk once said he did when he found a woman distracting. He would pray, “Lord, I thank you that you have made someone as beautiful as this.” That works to bring one back to the proper state of mind.


5 posted on 02/25/2021 7:41:27 PM PST by Southside_Chicago_Republican (The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog. )
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To: Southside_Chicago_Republican

You win Post of the Thread.


9 posted on 02/25/2021 8:46:58 PM PST by DoodleBob (Gravity's waiting period is about 9.8 m/s^2)
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To: Southside_Chicago_Republican

I like that prayer.


16 posted on 02/26/2021 12:20:45 AM PST by NetAddicted (Just looking)
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To: Southside_Chicago_Republican
I have found that reminding myself of Christ's compassion for the woman at the well and the adulteress/prostitute woman takes the “heat” off when dealing with “distractions”. It is hard for both lust and Godly compassion to exist together in the same place and thus the passion of the moment drains away. It takes a bit of faith and effort and one has to stop oneself from dwelling too much....”Nuff said. Someday I'll be free of this body that is prone to sin and death...and be fully human and fully Holy...not this caricature and dim shadow of what God intended for a human to be!
17 posted on 02/26/2021 3:27:10 AM PST by mdmathis6
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