One thing to bear in mind here: we are ALL commanded to honor our father and mother. It is, I believe, the fifth commandment? It is definitely the first commandment that comes with a promise: that your days may be prolonged, etc.
If Jesus honored His mother at the wedding feast, He was not green-lighting her veneration. He was merely obeying one of the preeminent commandments. If He made provision for her on the cross, likewise.
The commandment to honor father and mother applies to all. It doesn’t imply that every mother and father should be memorialized in man-made images that we bow down to. It simply means that we are obligated to follow God’s commands.
You are correct, but He did not need to perform a miracle in order to honor Mary.
Who gives a darn about the Ten Commandments? That's all Old Testament stuff that can now be ignored, according to some .
Sometimes it is necessary to drink more freely, to play and to jest and even to commit some sin (peccatum aliquod faciendum) out of hatred and contempt for the devil, so that he may get no chance of making a matter of conscience out of mere trifles; otherwise we shall be vanquished if we are too anxious about not committing sin. ... Oh that I could paint sin in a fair light, so as to mock at the devil and make him see that I acknowledge no sin and am not conscious of having committed any! I tell you, we must put all the Ten Commandments, with which the devil tempts and plagues us so greatly, out of sight and out of mind.Martin Luther
John 2:11
“This beginning of His signs Jesus did in Cana of Galilee, and manifested His glory, and His disciples believed in Him.”
This is why Jesus performed the miracle in Cana.
It was a sign that showed His glory as Messiah and a sign to His disciples, who then “believed in Him.”