The nature of our abiding in Christ, and Him in us, must be understood by what we're told in the Scriptures, and not from what we imagine or want it to be. This is why I posted the following excerpt earlier:
"He that abideth in me, and I in him....If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you....If a man abide not in me..."
Note also the following parallel passages, one of which you quoted:
"And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit; Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord"
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly; in all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts unto God." - Col. 3:16
There is no great mystery in how Christ and the Holy Ghost abide in the disciple, and he in Them; no confusion as to how They lead him, and keep him from sin. Consider what the Psalmist said in Ps. 119:
"Wherewith shall a young man cleanse his way?
By taking heed thereto according to thy word...
Thy word have I laid up in my heart,
That I might not sin against thee...
My soul melteth for heaviness:
Strengthen thou me according unto thy word...
I will lift up my hands also unto thy commandments, which I have loved;
And I will meditate on thy statutes...
Thy word is a lamp unto my feet,
And light unto my path."
There is no mystery in how we're led by the Spirit. It's the same way as David was led by God in the passage above. He loved the commandments and statutes of God.
God gave the Law and the Prophets to Israel. Then Jesus came preaching, and then sent the Holy Spirit. Every word of Scripture is from God, delivered either by inspired men of the Old Testament, or Jesus, or the Holy Spirit in the apostles and other writers of the New Testament.
But some people aren't satisfied with God's way. Unlike David, to them God's Word is a dry thing, or sterile, or dead. They are not moved by it to praise and obey Him. So they want something more.
And some even say that the sinner cannot come to God without some mystical moving of the Holy Spirit. But it is faith that a sinner needs - the faith described in Heb. 11, the faith that trusts in God and yields to Him, the faith of David who turned to God's Word to hear what he ought to do and then did it.
I think what you are teaching here is a form of Campbellism. Campbell was a man with many man-made opinions, often derived it seems from taking in too much of the strident rationalism of his era. This doctrine that the indwelling of the Holy Spirit is essentially nothing more than our own response of obedience to the Scriptures is just a man-made opinion that has no sound basis in Scripture. Rather, it bows to human rationalism, almost it seems making our own obedience to the word a virtual substitute for the supernatural operation of the third Person of the Trinity in the life of the believer. It is utterly impossible to reconcile it with the teaching of many Scriptures. One example:
And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.
(Romans 5:5)
Notice the passive voice. Our hearts do not create the love of God. The Holy Spirit is the actor. The love of God comes to us through His work in us. You can say this is all by us sitting around and hearing the word, and the word certainly plays an active role. But Paul, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, does not frame this as an entirely intellectual or even volitional process that produces obedience. Paul knows the language of obedience, and often speaks of the operation of the word of God on the mind. But in his inspired words here he doesn't use that language, but instead portrays the Holy Spirit as an active Person Who has been given to us, and is acting on our hearts to fill them with the love of God, which love human intellect can neither contain nor even faintly begin to describe.
As here:
Knowing, brethren beloved, your election of God. For our gospel came not unto you in word only, but also in power, and in the Holy Ghost, and in much assurance; as ye know what manner of men we were among you for your sake. And ye became followers of us, and of the Lord, having received the word in much affliction, with joy of the Holy Ghost:
(1 Thessalonians 1:4-6)
In which we see Paul making a clear distinction between a Gospel in word only versus a Gospel come in both words and in Holy Spirit power. If the word and the Spirit were the functionally same thing, there'd be no point in making the distinction.
And you see they follow Paul, and follow Jesus as well, in which it is clear we can follow good teachers who teach us how to follow Jesus, and when we do so, and suffer affliction for it, we still have that one-of-a-kind joy that comes only from the Holy Spirit.
But what about obedience? Remember this?
Doth he thank that servant because he did the things that were commanded him? I trow not. So likewise ye, when ye shall have done all those things which are commanded you, say, We are unprofitable servants: we have done that which was our duty to do.
(Luke 17:9-10)
Obedience without the life of the Spirit is nothing. Jesus is basically saying that even if you do everything your master tells you to do, so what? That's what servants are supposed to do. Nothing special. But there is much more to being a believer:
He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water. (But this spake he of the Spirit, which they that believe on him should receive: for the Holy Ghost was not yet given; because that Jesus was not yet glorified.)
(John 7:38-39)
This is a vital union, a walking with God, a real, personal communion with the Spirit of the living God. This is much more than simple, mechanical obedience. This love is the response of a transformed heart, truly full of the Holy Spirit.
Perhaps we can explore this by looking at the other end of the spectrum. A demon is a spiritual being. Yet such beings in Scripture are said to possess their victim, and when they are confronted with divine power, they "go out" of their victim. Here it is incontrovertible that spiritual beings can indeed cohabit a human dwelling, and not in the sense of learning and doing bad things because of some spoken or written word, but in terms of a dramatic level of direct spiritual control over the person who is the "host."
My point is this. In my previous post, the Scriptures recited persistently use language that speaks of the Spirit indwelling us in the sense of a living fellowship within our hearts and minds, such an intimate relationship that obedience by itself does not account for the whole thing. For example, if the word is, in effect, the only Holy Spirit one acknowledges, how in Heaven or earth can we do this to Him?:
And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
(Ephesians 4:30)
Words do not grieve. Persons grieve. He says right there we have that seal of the Holy Spirit until the day of redemption, so He is not going anywhere, even when we grieve Him. This is entirely the language of vital union, two people handcuffed to each other for life, and believe me when the Holy Spirit is grieved with some unresolved sin in a believer there is no peace for that person until there is repentance.
In sum, Campbellism appears to me to be a kind of radical cessationism, the idea that the Holy Spirit has totally left off any involvement with believers other than leaving them with the text of Scripture. But that is simply not possible under any plain reading of Scripture. God does not change, and has not given us mere moral persuasion to keep us company in this life while we wait for His return, but this:
For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.
(Romans 8:15)
Amen that.
Peace,
SR