In my understanding of God He does not hate any of His children. Since God is our Father I try to relate it to how I feel about my children, my children can certainly do things that make me mad but I don't think they can make me hate them.
In the perspective of eternity when God destroys His Children he is only ending their earthly life. Even when God destroys His earthly children I do not believe He hates them, or shall I say I do believe He still loves them. Sometimes that loves seems hard and harsh but still it is love.
Since all people on earth are sinners it would be logical that God hates all of us but instead He loved us enough that He sent His son into the world to die for us and be punished for our sins so that we could live with God. Living with God is conditional, don't get me wrong. I realize we need to tow the line by repenting of our sins, not sinning again and accepting Christ as our Savior and being loyal to Him and following Him.
Not everybody will accept Jesus Christ but I believe that nearly all would accept Christ if they had a perfect understanding of Christ and what He did for us and does for us.
There have been times when I have explained to my children over and over again how it is, it seemed they would never get it. Now I see them doing the same to their kids.
No, I don't think God ever hates us but it must look like it sometimes.
God chastens His children because He loves them, I don’t believe He destroys His Children. The flesh will be destroyed sooner or later, but that is because Jesus Christ did not redeem our flesh, He redeemed the real us, our soul, our spirit.