I guess it sucked to be Joseph.
Scripture is wisely silent on the marital life of Mary and Joseph.
Likely the Church adopted this position in its early days to fend off the emergence of any characters claiming to be a blood relative of Jesus and challenging the Pope for control.
Though in reality, every Jew that you meet (save converts) is a blood relative of Jesus.
I hear you. In order for us to believe that Mary was a perpetual virgin, we would have to believe that Joseph was a passive wallflower standing in a corner, sleeping in a separate bedroom somewhere. That is a stretch. In a lot of religious artwork, Joseph is often portrayed as an older man. Truth is we know very little about Joseph. He could have been an older man at the time he married Mary. But he could have been a much younger man closer to Mary’s own age. We don’t know and it is pointless to speculate.
God’s plan is for Holy Matrimony and to be fruitful and multiply. God wants us to celebrate life, not celibate life.
Well....