My apologies for the lack of clarity-
When the family of the client complained about the client’s rude, selfish and sometimes downright bizarre behaviors-the client would say “well that is just my dry drunk behavior-this is a selfish program”. Understandably, that attitude was not well taken, and before long, not even tolerated.
It is often misinterpreted as a selfish program. In reality, the 12 steps are designed to defeat the selfishness and self-centeredness that plague the alcoholic.
To be sure, there's no shortage of bad advice at an AA meeting!
Boy did that guy have it wrong LOL.
Trying to excuse bad behavior by blaming it on your alcholism or conversely, your sobriety, is just about as misguided in interpretation and practice that one exhibit.
As I stated earlier “dry drunk” refers to someone who is presently not drinking but has not made the neccessary life changes that contributed to his abusing alcohol in the first place. Oftentimes these are self destructive behaviors and situations that promote addictive tendencies to play out.
As far as being “selfish”, that refers to putting a priority of sobriety above all else in ones life. Meaning that without sobriety we will likely lose all else ie. family, career, life. This guy was using it as an excuse to be a jerk.