This is where there is a gulf between us that only you can cross.
A moment of humor:
Beni: [after a shipwreck] Hey, O'Connell! It looks to me like I've got all the horses!
Rick: Hey, Beni! Looks to me like you're on the wrong side of the river!
Seriously, if Person1 writes that Person2 is acting like a {Insert derogatory term here} Person3 brings that to the attention of Person1, who then tries to declaim that he only asked why Person2 was acting like a {Insert derogatory term here}, which clearly was not a question to Person2 but rather an assertion about Person2. Afterward Person1 seems to claim he is walking in the Spirit in the LORD Jesus Christ and I am reminded of the cognitive dissonance associated with various Pentecostal, Evangelical, and Fundamentalists, not that the same cannot apply to others, who say one thing and before my very eyes do another. It seems to me there is a culture in those faith groups, especially in leadership which then cascades to the flocks, that being saved means never having to admit the truth except to advance the mission. The prosecution calls Bill Gothard. It seems to me someone truly walking in the Spirit would have a tender conscience connected to truth, remorse, and confession. But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? either a vine, figs? so can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh. Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.
-- James, Catholic chapter three, Protestant verses eight through fourteen, as authorized by King James
You are correct sir. I just did not realize till recently, just how wide that gulf is. It is WIDE. Keep preaching bro.