The scripture does not give men the responsibility to to make sure the marriage is working. Sorry that is a canard to allow women to shirk work and then to blame men.
Would you accuse Hosea of being a bad husband? Would you accuse Christ of not loving His church enough that she would respond with true worship in spirit and truth? NO! Gomer was responsible for her whoredom, and the church for its lack of affection and obedience. Like wise a wife is responsible for her own defrauding and thereby removing a shield of defense for her husband against the wiles of Lucifer.
The Bible does gives husbands the responsibility to be the head, to rule his household well and to wash and water his wife with the Word. She has also been given responsibilities (I prefer the Biblical word of duties) to honor her husband, submit to him in all things and to enrapture him sexually with her body. He has no remedy for a rebellious wife but to confront her with the word, to sleep on the roof and battle Lucifer alone.
Are you aware that the marriage counseling industry was created to give women more power over their husbands? (egalitarian is a fancy name for rebellion where God has created a chain of command). Are you aware that even so called christian marriage ministries that call men to man up and lead also call for him to submit to his wife and encourage her to rebel against the authority God gave him?
It's still his responsibility as the head of the marriage, whether you like it or not.
The outcome of the woman's response is not always guaranteed, but he is still responsible to try and work at the relationship himself, and he is accountable before God as the man, just as Adam was in the garden.
Their eyes weren't opened until after HE ate. Sin entered the world through Adam.
Too bad, but foisting the responsibility off on the wife, the woman who is the weaker vessel, is blame-shifting and an indication of issues in the man's heart and mind.