[defconw]

My husband was not Catholic and his family was not Catholic. My analogy that you don't like I got from a priest. So it's good enough for him, it's good enough for me. Now of course we can go through all teh Chuch Fathers, but sometimes simple is better when talking to non-Catholics. They get the point! No cake for you!

The Eucharist is a meal, it's a last supper a Sacrament, it is so initmate that it defies description. It says, you new husband, can not do this with me.

We had wedding ceremony not a Mass. My priest at the time preferred not to do Mass when both are not Catholic.

[manc]

Good for you , and my wife and I have been together for over 20 years, actually 22 years and we are just if not as happy as that first day.
We loved our wedding, and yes it was not Catholic, and if people have a problem with that then so be it. We are happy, our kids are happy , and that is all what counts in this family.

[AnAmericanMother]

I can see the problem when both are not Catholic - that puts everybody (including the priest) in a tough spot.

My husband converted before we were married (to the Episcopal church). Then we both converted to Catholicism after the Episcopalians lost their minds. But - particularly once we had children - it was important to be singing from the same page. And, more importantly, it matters what you believe, and if it matters, you need to stand by it. Even if somebody gets offended.

I know somebody whose dad was Jewish, mom Catholic. They were married in a Christian/Disciples of Christ church, then became Unitarians. She became a pagan priestess. Same thing happened to another girl whose father was a howling atheist, mother agnostic. Not sure what that means, other than that it's difficult to rebel against your parents when you're not sure what you're rebelling against . . .