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This is not a really good analogy. There's nothing particularly holy, let alone sacramental, about cake, or any danger in eating it. And a Nuptial Mass is not merely a "celebration" but an affirmation of the holiness of God and the gift of the Blessed Sacrament.

I suppose if you had a branch of the family that was allergic to chocolate or diabetic and couldn't eat cake, that might be more to the point. Because taking Communion when you are not in a state of grace, or when you do not believe in the Real Presence, is actually dangerous to the soul.

Most priests will explain that to the congregation. My daughter and her hubby are both Catholic, but since we were Episcopalian and converted, a ton of our friends and relatives are not Catholic. We also had in attendance everything from Conservative Jews to a Wiccan priestess, not to mention the unchurched.

Nobody was mortally offended at all. And everybody who wanted cake got it. :-)

My husband was not Catholic and his family was not Catholic. My analogy that you don't like I got from a priest. So it's good enough for him, it's good enough for me. Now of course we can go through all teh Chuch Fathers, but sometimes simple is better when talking to non-Catholics. They get the point! No cake for you!

The Eucharist is a meal, it's a last supper a Sacrament, it is so initmate that it defies description. It says, you new husband, can not do this with me.

We had wedding ceremony not a Mass. My priest at the time preferred not to do Mass when both are not Catholic.