If our reason for saving sex until marriage is because we believe it will make sex better or easier for us, we’re not only setting ourselves up for disappointment, but we’re missing the point entirely. Those of us who choose to wait do so because we hold certain beliefs about the sacredness of marriage and about God's intentions and wishes for humanity, and we honor these regardless of whether they feel easier or harder. In the meantime, we in the evangelical church has a lot of work to do correcting the distorted ways we talk about sex and sexuality, especially to our youth.
1. Sex is MEANT to be enjoyed. (Which is precisely WHY it is made to be so enjoyable in the first place. It's supposed to be enjoyable.)
2. Sex is meant to be the reward at the CULMINATION OF A RELATIONSHIP. Not at the start of one, where, once experienced, everything is likely to be downhill from there. We are first supposed to enjoy each other's company, get to know the person first. Hold hands. Learn to enjoy that. Then hugging, other stuff, frolicking in the fields, etc. If you begin with the culmination, the hand-holding and frolicking can't be as interesting, because they don't lead to the, eh, uh...culmination part. ;)