I think your post pointed out some very good points about the early church. It was very much focused on relationships and how to get along better. Much of Paul's writings and the lessons of Christ were how the church was to be different, to knit and grow together. Love between it's members was to be the identifying mark.
Paul summed it up:
1Co 13:2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
1Co 13:3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.
Doctrine is important, but it's purpose is to teach us how to love God and how to love others.
It IS?
I think your post pointed out some very good points about the early church. It was very much focused on relationships and how to get along better. Much of Paul’s writings and the lessons of Christ were how the church was to be different, to knit and grow together. Love between it’s members was to be the identifying mark.
Any one can go to Church but it was the members who run the ministry so not just any one could be a member.
But i see your point, if an elder is bad mouthing the Bishop or his wife that does not show love.