I beleive it’s you missing the point (with all due respect, sincerely): We don’t stop loving the ones that died, or thinking about them or missing them. What we should NOT do is pray to them. That is not Biblical and it’s dangerous. Further, there is no need to pray FOR them. Just as God pointed out about Lazarus(?)—the other one, that wanted people to go warn his family of what hell is like, there is no connection between us and the dead. This is also why the Lazarus that was dead for 4 days knew nothing about the ‘afterlife’ as he was dead; with no memory or recall.
This is the perfect ‘in’ for Satan if he knows we’re vulnerable to talking to the dead, then he responds with familiar signs, tricking us into believing we’re connecting with them. We are to pray to Christ and Christ alone.
"I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die.
As CS Lewis wrote, "You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.” While our temporal body may die, eternal souls, by definition, remain very much alive. I don't know about you but frankly, I can use all the prayers I can get, and if those Christians who have departed this world, but still remain very much alive in the Church, wish to pray for me, I'll take it.