Although I agree with the list for the most part, and believe it goes against God’s will for us to live together before we are married, I have seen the sexual compatibility thing in action. In my first marriage, my then-wife was happy with sex every few weeks at the most. And she literally denied it for the last 14 months of the marriage. It was 20 years long and, to be clear, she divorced me, without cause, completely out of the blue. I never saw it coming.
Now I’ve been married to my wife for 14 years and we are in our late 50’s. I feel uncomfortable discussing frequency but will say that most married 20 somethings would be jealous. We never tire of each other and it is a very important part of our relationship to this day. And as the author points out, it is both physical AND spiritual.
Your first wife obviously didn’t truly love you-—she was selfish and not selfless—as true love makes you want to please and sacrifice for the one you “love”.
Too many people equate love to “lust”. It is not about how many times you have orgasms, etc., it is all about how you make your spouse feel about themselves and God. You should always want to please those you love and promote the Good. This is ultimately what makes you happy—pleasing God and others. God has to be where there is selfless love-—always.
Marriage is a special male/female commitment which includes meeting the sexual needs of their spouse. Women are conditioned and taught in today’s atheist (godless) culture to despise male needs and marginalize men to mere animals-—as men are taught and conditioned to think women (and now men {homosexuals}) are just objects for lust—a means to an end. (The Church calls this extremely evil). It is the intentional dehumanization (communism) of man. No person will be “happy” treated with no respect for their fundamental natures.
Atheism has no respect for the opposite sex and the Nature of man and woman. Their beliefs reduce man to a base animal and urges. There is no spiritual aspect to man in their reality. Christianity is founded with the profound knowledge of Natural Law Theory which they embrace (rejected by Marx) which does not separate the physical and spiritual elements of men and women. Emotionally healthy human beings can never have their rational or their spiritual natures separated and it wasn’t until the Postmodern German Philosophy became prevalent in Europe and then America that this paradigm shift occurred. The Pope writes extensively on this transformation of Europe.
Compartmentalizing faith and reason and denying the true (whole) nature of man is the aim of Atheists/Marxists/socialists—so that they can make a colony of termites who can not use reason and knowledge and are slaves to their passions and urges. They are easy to control and eliminate. Their lifestyles do not promote trust and love and belief in God.
My point: There is no Love without God.