I freepmailed you a couple of names. The biggest one of these has been dormant for months, and it is definitely not you who displays that attitude. Perhaps I need to change my perspective on Calvinists, but it will take time — we had three years of non-stop nyaahs and it will take time to forget...
Of course there will be those in any group who do not display a correct attitude.
However, that doesn't negate the fact that Calvinism correctly stresses that salvation is a gift of God. This is a doctrine which is taught plainly in the Bible, is also evident in natural theology, and one that brings solid assurance to a believer.
One must base his/her theology on any truth that is evident and not fallible people who may be attempting to espouse that truth.