OMG. It sounds like Scientology. Its absolutely none of my business, but how can you love and stay married to someone with this hanging over you both? It sounds unresolvable (is that a word?). You poor life sounds like complete turmoil.
Ding. Ding. Ding. We have a winner. ejonesie22, you are annie sullivan to Deb's helen keller.
It's BIBLICAL:
1 Corinthians 7:12-14
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.
13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.