THank you. Men and women see these issues differently, I’m sure. My husband and I talked about this story this weekend. We both agree first that, really, none of this is anyone else’s business, however, since it is in the news, the take away is that, once you have made a commitment to another person via a marriage contract you should honor it, regardless, and if you cannot you MUST divorce them, regardless of the cost to yourself.
Tiger has a problem, in that he does not seem to be able to stop himself. I personally don’t think it’s entirely about sex, it maybe more about doing this because he can. I think he needs something in his life that he’s not going to find being a Buddhist, but a lot of people will also disagree with me on that. At any rate, I feel somewhat sorry for him, but he did make his own bed. On the other hand, I think he will again be an awesome golfer and he will again have a following in golf, altho he will never have quite the mystique he had before. What he threw away most people only dream of. It doesn’t feel like he really learned a real lesson, but who am I to say?
I don’t know Tiger or his wife, and honestly haven’t followed the story much. He’s a good golfer ... but I’ve always been more of a Mickelson fan.
I agree that men and women see these issues differently — and most seem to want to blame the other party. Women who were cheated on say he’s lying scum. Men who cheat say she is cold and unavailable and drove him to it. They bitch back and forth forever ... she holds a grudge, he stands his ground ... they both become miserable and intolerable ... and then they divorce — both still blaming the other party.
When there are problems, its always a good idea to look at your own part in that problem. A man who cheats is either weak or a narcissistic tool ... and maybe a combination of the two. A woman whose husband cheats is either too detached and not paying him enough attention, or lousy at picking suitable honorable husbands.
In either case, there is something BOTH parties can fix about themselves to help the situation, or make sure that you don’t end up in the same spot in the future.
Women should understand that men need affection, and that if you continually brush your husband off ... he very well may go to someone who is more inviting. If your husband is just a jerk, leave him. If he’s weak and you played a part in driving him away ... don’t play that part anymore.
Men should understand that your family and your integrity come before your libido. If you’re a jerk who was not driven away — sack up and be a man, or let her find someone who will (and don’t subject any other women to your pathetic self). If you were driven away and were too weak to resist ... sack up and be a man. Talk to your wife about your inability to control yourself ... if she can’t (or won’t) help you be stronger, do the honorable thing and let her go find someone who doesn’t need a crutch to resist temptation.
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