I don’t know Tiger or his wife, and honestly haven’t followed the story much. He’s a good golfer ... but I’ve always been more of a Mickelson fan.
I agree that men and women see these issues differently — and most seem to want to blame the other party. Women who were cheated on say he’s lying scum. Men who cheat say she is cold and unavailable and drove him to it. They bitch back and forth forever ... she holds a grudge, he stands his ground ... they both become miserable and intolerable ... and then they divorce — both still blaming the other party.
When there are problems, its always a good idea to look at your own part in that problem. A man who cheats is either weak or a narcissistic tool ... and maybe a combination of the two. A woman whose husband cheats is either too detached and not paying him enough attention, or lousy at picking suitable honorable husbands.
In either case, there is something BOTH parties can fix about themselves to help the situation, or make sure that you don’t end up in the same spot in the future.
Women should understand that men need affection, and that if you continually brush your husband off ... he very well may go to someone who is more inviting. If your husband is just a jerk, leave him. If he’s weak and you played a part in driving him away ... don’t play that part anymore.
Men should understand that your family and your integrity come before your libido. If you’re a jerk who was not driven away — sack up and be a man, or let her find someone who will (and don’t subject any other women to your pathetic self). If you were driven away and were too weak to resist ... sack up and be a man. Talk to your wife about your inability to control yourself ... if she can’t (or won’t) help you be stronger, do the honorable thing and let her go find someone who doesn’t need a crutch to resist temptation.
SnakeDoc
I’m fairly old, and I’ve been married for over 30 years (yeah, I was pretty young when I got married). I’m extra ordinarily lucky to be married to a fabulous man. But, I’ve seen a lot of marriages fall apart thru the years and I have never seen one in which both parties did do things that contributed. A marriage is a contract tho. If a guy feels he’s not getting what he needs from a marriage (or a woman for that matter) then get out of it first. That’s all. But people, men and women, don’t seem to think they need to live up to their end of bargains these days. Their wants and needs come first.
Sometimes life sucks.
I read once that most marriages hit rough spots, but most couples who motor thru them come out within a few years glad they saw it thru and are happier that they stuck it out.