So it’s not ok to look at pornography with your wife? All of it is bad? How about if you don’t see your wife for a year because you’re deployed? Just go cold turkey the whole year? Is masturbation with pornography bad or is it ok if you just masturbate with your eyes closed? Which one sends you to hell? Or is it both?
Who’s talking about going to hell? I never brought it up. No pun intended, but if its what you want, knock yourself out. Just know that you run some personal risks (hell not being one of them!).
For what it’s worth, this is my response:
In God’s eyes, I don’t believe it is ok to view pornography with or without your wife. There will be lust as a result which is against God’s word. I say this with no hint of self righteousness as I have given in to the temptation.
If a spouse was away for an extended time, or even if they were home and not “in the mood”, I don’t believe masturbation with thoughts of your spouse is against God’s will.
Personally, I don’t think anyone can go cold turkey for a whole year (or longer in the case of priests, for example— but that’s another topic) I believe we are made sexual beings with urges that need to be fulfilled on occasion.
To deny that, is to deny a part of our existence. If it is not fulfilled in a healthy way, it will often be fulfilled in an unhealthy way as we have seen in the media so often.