Red - It's just not that easy. ALL churches ignore parts of scripture. I suppose that what you consider valid is as important as what you choose to ignore.
In short, you are right. All of us here on earth only understand in part, and we are just as likely to go tilting at windmills as the next guy.
But we aren't talking about some of the minor things that seem to keep church leaders busy on a slow winters day here. While I have seen and met some good women pastors, the fact remains that Paul really came out against it. Until relatively recently it wasn't even considered by most, if not all, denominations as an option.
Ask Tony and HS about the damage done by some of the feminists in the ELCA (don't know where you worship, so you might also have some first hand knowledge). Go ask some of the Anglicans about what happened when women started to get ordained.
The LCMS has had many bloody battles about this internally, and it always came down to "Can we back it up with Scripture." The answer is no.