In short, you are right. All of us here on earth only understand in part, and we are just as likely to go tilting at windmills as the next guy.
But we aren't talking about some of the minor things that seem to keep church leaders busy on a slow winters day here. While I have seen and met some good women pastors, the fact remains that Paul really came out against it. Until relatively recently it wasn't even considered by most, if not all, denominations as an option.
Ask Tony and HS about the damage done by some of the feminists in the ELCA (don't know where you worship, so you might also have some first hand knowledge). Go ask some of the Anglicans about what happened when women started to get ordained.
The LCMS has had many bloody battles about this internally, and it always came down to "Can we back it up with Scripture." The answer is no.
I am an Anglican. I agree with you that radical feminists have caused much damage. However, it is not their gender that causes the damage, it's their ideology. Look at the list of bishops who voted for Robinson to be ordained. Out of 100, 4 were women. How do you explain the men who voted for Robinson? My explanation is bad ideology/theology, not gender.