I could almost stand the Novus Ordo if they'd just get rid of the chick "music minister" that always gets up at the lectern. You know, she also is the one that sings the "Responsorial Psalm" at the new Mass. I just can't get past the hand. Folks who attend Mass must know what I mean. She's up there, doing her little solo-part, then she does that little flick with the hand, that palm up sweeping motion. You know, the sign that says, "You peons may now join in the singing."
There is /nothing/ that drives me more nuts than "the hand". I can't hack it. I wind up walking out muttering, "The hand. The hand. Will you stop with the hand. In the name of God, quit it with the hand."
A humble yet sincere suggestion. You attend Church to praise and worship God. Remember what our Lord said:
"If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one of your members than to have your whole body thrown into Gehenna."
Matthew 5:29.
If the hand motion bothers you, sit somewhere in the church where you won't see the psalm leader - or - look down at the missalette during that time. If necessary, close your eyes. I did that so many times in my previous parish, to avoid these 'near occasions of sin'. Consider moving to a different parish but whatever you do, for the sake of your sanity and soul, try to avoid this distraction.
Rasing her hand is much more respectful that our music minister who yells out: (at some Masses)
"Now all join in!"
A cantor raising their hand is much more respectful and reverent! Think about it and count your blessings!
I never, ever, ever do it myself though. If somebody can't figure out when to join in the refrain with the text of the Psalm in front of them, they're probably too far gone to read the text anyhow. (Besides, when we choir members are cantoring, we're in the back of the church so nobody can see us anyhow.)