I am not from a Charismatic background, so FWIW:
It seems to me that Christians are most often guilty of one of two things, which I will refer to as the "Two Thieves of the Cross:"
The first thief is that of Antinomianism. These Christians think that they can do what ever they please, since they are saved. They basically are Carnal Christians. One cannot tell the difference between their pre and post conversion life. They continue to drink in excess, run around on their spouse, visit nude dancing establishments, etc. Please note I am not saying they have lapses where this occurs, but rather it is an ingrained part of their personhood.
The second thief are those who feel that they must add something to Christ's perfect work. It can be legalism, or a certain behavior that one must exibit. In this case, the behavior that is expected in your church. In other words, Christ is not enough, somehow you must add to Christ's work by seeking a higher level, whether it be in gifts or a higher understanding.
My friend, find a church that preaches the Gospel and nothing else. For it is Christ alone who saves us. The Holy Spirit will change you in the manner that God wants, not one that others think is right.
In other words: "Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen." 1 Jude 24-25
The second thief are those who feel that they must add something to Christ's perfect work. It can be legalism, or a certain behavior that one must exibit. In this case, the behavior that is expected in your church. In other words, Christ is not enough, somehow you must add to Christ's work by seeking a higher level, whether it be in gifts or a higher understanding. I had never thought about it that way before. Holy cow, what a "light bulb" moment.
Many thanks for that. It answers a lot of questions for me
pony