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There's an old saying:

There are two kinds of sex. Free sex, and the sex you pay for. The free sex is always more expensive.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a red-blooded, beer swilling, pickup-truck driving American Male. I've also seen the consequences that have occurred as a result of thinking with the thing down there.

People who act based on their emotions are irrational and get themselves into all kinds of trouble, whether the emotion is "Hey, I think I'll steal this candy bar", or "Hey, I can pay off this credit card later" or "Hey, I think that chick is hot and I want to bounce her noggin off my headboard a few times."

Am I voluntarily celibate? Well, it depends. If by "voluntarily" you mean that I won't put the spurs to every floozie that comes down the pike, well, then yes I am.

I'd rather find a person with an IQ greater than that of the mold under the refrigerator and get to know her before moving to that kind of relationship. Problem is, I can't find one. In fact, I don't know if such a person exists. So, I guess that makes me voluntarily celibate. And, weird. But, I've been called worse.

Well, I guess not everyone considers self control to be a virtue.

As for myself, I plan on getting married, and having a family. I would like to not marry someone who has had about 100 other men's penises like yours in her vagina before me, and I would like to share myself with only one other person. My wedding night and honeymoon will actually have some meaning to it, as well as my marriage. If you consider that weird, then I guess that's what I am--and proud of it.

Sorry to get so graphic, but I think you really should take this a little bit more seriously than what you are and consider the consequences. I would not associate myself with the gentlemen in his article, who seems to, at least based on what was said, not want to have sex at all. Those of us who are waiting to have such a relationship with that one person certainly do want to have sex--just at the right time (believe me, we do--if you hung out at the fraternity house at my college you'd know this--some of the guys who are married come in and try to make us jealous). I don't think "celibate" is a correct term to use. We are going to be sexually active (very active, I would hope), but only with our mates for life--at the right time, and for the right reasons. Sex is not just for physical gratification--it is supposed to be an expression of true love, and a process which has the potential to create new life--obviously a very serious thing.

I did not mean to write a dissertation, and I hope I haven't turned you off, but for you to just simply dismiss us as "weird" prompted me to respond. I hope you will at least think about what I have had to say. Take care--RW.