My Niece is Scheduled to Have an Abortion Today

Skooz | 1.30.2003 | Skooz

[mongrel]

I am sorry to hear about your neice's situation.

One point, often the motivation for the parents of a would-be father are to make sure he doesn't get stuck with child-support payments for the next 20 years. That makes the demand for an abortion even more galling.

[sit-rep]

I don't understand....why would you post something like this?

[cincinnati65]

"His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again."

I assume they mean, EXCLUDING child support and visitations, right?

[Lil'freeper]

His folks told him that unless she has an abortion he can never see her again.

Perhaps I'm cynical, but I smell money at work here. It sounds like the boy is not old enough to be able to support a baby financially and his slimey parents probably don't want the burden. The lessons this boy is learning make me sick- the same lessons causing the rot the cities.

There has got to be a legal angle to this coercion. A good lawyer could probably make a case of it and get an injunction. Pressuring a young girl to undergo a dangerous procedure with long-term consequences (no to mention the death of a baby) in order to avoid the cost of child support is sleazy, wrong, and demands a day in court.

[Skooz]

No problem. To a certain extent, you were right. She is one of those really gifted yet socially awkward types. She is borderline genius--one of the top academic acheivers in the state. She had planned on med school after college and was taking a science-heavy curriculum. But, she lacks the maturity of most 18 year-olds and is in no way ready for something like this.

[wimpycat]

I wish you could tell her the best thing for her to do, which is to have the baby and "abort" the boyfriend.

Since I used to be an 18 year old girl myself, sadly, I realize she probably won't listen.

Not that I was ever in this situation myself, but between the ages of 15 and maybe 23, my parents and some other wise adults gave me good advice, and I knew what they were telling me was true, but I just didn't listen.

One thing that might help is to GET A GIRL HER OWN AGE TO TALK TO HER!!! MAYBE SOMEONE WHO HAS EITHER HAD A BABY, OR HAD AN ABORTION THAT SHE REGRETS. That might be the only thing that will work!

[Alberta's Child]

LOL. It's easy to get carried away on a sensitive subject like this.

[RedBloodedAmerican]

What about suggesting they talk to a Crisis Pregnancy center (not the abortion ones, the ones who help save the child) to get a "second opinion" or to see both sides of the issue? I wouldn't know what you could do....show them shock value pics? I dont think that will work. Buy the baby a gift and deliver it right away before the procedure? I'll be praying a hedge for her.

[Bloody Sam Roberts]

Please keep us updated on this situation with a bump to this thread over the next couple of days. I've already bookmarked it.

[Hillary's Lovely Legs]

Do you know if anyone has considered adoption?

[Mamzelle]

I have long held the opinion that the most passionate pro-aborts are men seeking to escape responsibility for their sexuality. What promise does this girl have that these parents will not see that she's abandoned after the aboriton?

[RedBloodedAmerican]

Will she consider adoption?

[wimpycat]

If you can find an 18-21 yr old girl who had a baby and gave it up for adoption, that would be ideal. Find someone near her own age that she can "identify" with; someone who has "been there".

[Jim Noble]

It is very sad.

I have been in a similar situation. Sometimes individuals are powerless to resist great evil.

You any your family are in our prayers.

[Judith Anne]

And at the center of it all, hidden in illusory safety, a little, inconvenient, expensive child, just about to die.

God have mercy. I will shed the tears that the heartless young man's parents won't, as they pressure to have their grandchild killed.

[Jim Noble]

Take it back.

Please.

[Mamzelle]

One last option...contact the boy's parents and at least let them know that this is something that more than two people know about.

[HighWheeler]

I work with a guy whose daughter was in exactly the same situation, as your neice, about 5 years ago. His pro-life family stood by her and encouraged her to give the baby up for adoption.

The baby was born healthy and given to loving parents.

Sure, she may forever wonder what happened to her baby, but she will never have to face the regret of having killed a baby. Her unselfish act made at least 3 people in the world happy beyond description.

She got married to a fine guy last summer.

[Skooz]

Will do. Actually, I was beginning a 6 week hiatus from FR (I have to do that from time-to-time, just to get something done around here) but felt compelled to post this here this morning. Freepers are among the wisest people I know and this is a great place to seek wise counsel.

[Alberta's Child]

I once worked for a guy whose kid set a record for absenteeism in his high school. The kid barely made it out of school, and ended up working in a gas station on the overnight shift at the age of 18.

One night he was held up at gunpoint. He was not harmed, but he suddenly got the fear of God in him and came home and told his parents that he had to do something else. His father had recognized early on that the kid had some good mechanical skills, so he helped him get enrolled in an airplane mechanic's program.

But that only lasted about 6 months, because the kid was capable of far more than that. He ended up going to school for avionics and aeronautical engineering, and the last time I heard of him he was the top avionics expert (at the age of 30) for one of the major airlines.

Maybe it takes the grace of God, but sometimes these things just end up working out in the long run.