[discostu]

Ah now I see why you used the "word" "irregardless", not good with English. Tough times come, some of them are "because" of the other person, others aren't. It's not really the woman's fault when she hits menopause you know, that's a design flaw in the human body, it's God's or evolution's fault (depending on your particular beliefs). While you're right (I'm using "right" very loosly here, your grammar is horrid) that a relationship which produces more pain than happiness is a bad relationship you're still building in an assumed failure. I know plenty of folks who've sailed thorugh the menopause years with hardly a blink (from what I've heard, all anecdotal, it's all about the PMS, women that suffer from bad PMS will have a bad menopause, women that handle PMS OK barely notice menopause). Either way it's just something to be handled, like any other difficulty in life. The benefit is that you also have someone to share the good times with. As the under regarded sci-fi author Spyder Robinson said: "shared pain is lessened, shared joy increased". That's why we're social animals, that's why we make friends, that's why we developer closer bonds than friendship. So that we have people to share our life.

[weikel]

No im not a great writer one of my great comforts on entering engineering school was that I would never have to see the inside of another English class( they did have a humanities requirement but I did that in history much more to my liking). BTW given that a bunch of ebonics words are now part of the Queen's English( so I heard here on FR) I wouldn't bet too heavily that irregardless is not part of it either.