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Well marrying up makes logical sense but otherwise. And yes under more ideal circumstances I would like to get married but in the age of no fault those don't exist. Not all women change radically of course but enough do that even if I were sure that( hypothetical fiance) has too high a character to screw me over at 25 I'd be worried enough that I might not recognize her 10 years later and then get taken to the cleaners.

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Who married up? She was just as bad off as me, but her job had better benefits. Which wasn't why we got married. I was still a burger jokey for two years after we got married, then I did some investigating.

All people change radically as they get older, that's how life works. The thing is to grow older together, to understand each others changes. It's a sad person who's spent years ignoring their spouse that thinks the person suddenly changed. They didn't, they don't. All people change a little bit every day, including you. That's part of the fun. How monotonous would life be if we never learned and changed at any point in the 80 years or so we're hoping to have on the planet? My wife isn't at ALL the same person I married 10 years ago, thank God for small favors. I'm too old and impatient to put up with someone that naive anymore, which tells you that I'm not the same person either.