Vulgarity: the style of our days

As an ambitious young man in his teens, George Washington copied 110 rules of good manners from an English courtesy book of the previous century. He studied and "committed to the memory" these rules of genteel behavior because he realized that to rise in society, one must know how to behave, speak, and dress as a gentleman. One of the rules, which touches on the subject of this article, was simple and categorical: "Use no reproachful language against anyone, neither curse nor revile."[1]

I am sorry to say most young and ambitious persons today would laugh at such advice. We are living in an age when insulting others and 'sassing' family and friends are considered good humor. Cursing is so common that even the most obscene profanities are heard in homes and classrooms. And language in general has lost a polished tone and is becoming increasingly vulgar and prosaic. Some might foolishly call this a byproduct of the uninhibited freedom of modernity. I would qualify it differently: I would call it the fruit of the egalitarian Revolution that aims to do away with everything that distinguishes, refines, and ennobles.

"Language is the dress of thought," is the famous statement of Samuel Johnson, who was only translating the words of a Roman, Quintillion. If what you wear reflects what you are, then your style of speech indicates your thinking. The Sorbonne cultural revolution of the 20th century did not affect only dress and manners, but also speech, which has become correspondingly vulgar and egalitarian. Most certainly, it reflects modern thought born from a revolutionary and egalitarian philosophy.

The revolutionaries of the French Revolution who preached a false liberty from tradition and past conventions were motivated by the perverse desire to be free of all proprieties and formalities, all the dictates of the established order. They wanted to turn everything upside down, to toss out everything monarchical and aristocratic from the Old Regime. For example, one of their first mandates was that all should be addressed as “Citizen,” because they wanted to abolish all titles and courtesies of address of Christian Civilization.

If we analyze our history, we can see that in many senses we received a similar revolutionary influence. What has today come to be called the American spirit has certain parallels with the egalitarian and unrestrained way of presenting oneself that characterized the French Revolution.

Most of us today have been formed from the time we were young in the school of casualness and practicality. There is a natural tendency to reject formalities and embrace the vulgar, to revolt against the manners and speech of a genteel society in favor of a more relaxed and casual attitude and way of being. In the revolution of the 1960s, this expanded to include revolt against any and all conventions as part of the "right" one had to be oneself. In fact, this desire to break with conventions and order, to revolt against logic and hierarchy, to say whatever one wants whenever one likes, is at depth a principle contrary to all order.

Therefore, the Catholic who would truly like to fight the egalitarian trend in temporal society, the Catholic who truly desires a restoration of Christian Civilization, would by principle choose to love everything that is cultivated, elevating, and ennobling, and likewise avoid everything that is ignoble, base, and coarse. This includes vulgar and egalitarian language.

Some years ago, when I was a principal of a girls’ school, a mother came into my office to complain about her children's foul language. To describe the horrible words she was hearing, she herself used a scatological term.

"Don't you think that perhaps it might be better not to use words like that if you want to set a good example for your children?" I asked. The lady looked surprised. "That isn't really a bad word, just a little crass. You should hear the words they are using!"

What the good lady did not realize was that the revolution in language is like that in dress and customs. It is a process. Like the snowball at the top of mountain, little revolutionary habits and customs can seem small at the outset, but by the time the snowball has reached the bottom of the mountain, it has the speed and weight to cause enormous damage. If a lady begins to pepper her speech with little "harmless" vulgarities, she is preparing her children to use more offensive and perhaps even blasphemous terms. And by the time the grandchildren appear, she will be stunned to find households like the “Ozzies,” one of the latest TV shows that I've heard is teeming with violently vulgar language employed regularly by both parents and children.

There is only one effective way to stop the eventual avalanche of vulgarity. It is to stop the snowball before it begins its descent. Absolutely no profanity or vulgarity.

Then, a kind of inoculation against the vulgar must be administered. How? The most effective way I know is by cultivating a taste for refined speech and manners in the home to keep its members from becoming co-natural with the vulgar. I remember the violent shock I felt in high school the first time I heard some classmates using profanities with great naturality. I remember a second shock as I realized that these popular terms and blasphemies seemed part of a code that opened the doors to popularity. Thanks to the general good ambience of my home, I could not adopt the code. I cannot even imagine what today's young men and women in high school - and much younger - have to face.

Given the advanced stage of the revolutionary process we are facing, it is not enough to simply eschew outright profanities and vulgar expressions to re-cultivate the Catholic spirit in the home. It is necessary to make a real effort to confront the egalitarian trend of language that aims at abolishing formal niceties and genteel speech.

Good manners and fine speech used to be a mark of a refined person, a socially distinguishing mark. "Yes, she was a Daughter of the Sacred Heart," implied an education where girl learned not only algebra and history, but also the social arts. She was educated to be a lady. Likewise, a young man with fine education was a gentleman. Following an age-old Christian chivalric code, he knew how to act in society, with special polished manners he employed as a sign of respect for ladies – yes, even for his sisters, and especially for his mother.

It is a sign of a degenerate and disintegrating society when even the "well-bred" or wealthy no longer aspire to fine manners and cultivated speech in private as well as public life, but prefer a world of banalities. After forty years of the Cultural Revolution, persons of all classes and professions have become co-natural with the vulgar, the common, and the casual. The language we hear around us reflects an egalitarian impulse toward leveling all speech and thinking to the most basic and elementary. I don’t need to provide examples. One need only turn on the radio or television to hear the slang and loose tone of everyday conversation.

Many persons have become acclimated to this kind of modern egalitarian ambience where everything, including language, is easygoing, informal, and trendy. When they look to the past and consider the small disciplines of courtesy born from Christian Civilization, such as "If you permit me, sir," "I'd be delighted," "Could you be so kind as to wait one moment?” "What is the state of her health?" they are amused or even revolted. How old-fashioned! What a waste of words and time…

Why? Because of an egalitarian trend in culture that wants to break with everything – including language – that has form and polish, everything that is elevated and refined. This mentality is worthy of repulse, because it professes a love for what is low, common, and vulgar. Ultimately, it ends in the modern taste for the monstrous and blasphemous.

The anti-egalitarian Catholic is opposed not just to the leveling of the hierarchical structure of the Church. He abhors the leveling and vulgarization of everything in both the spiritual and temporal spheres. He seeks the most elevated in everything in order to admire what is above him and understand it as a reflection of the perfection and sublimity of Our Lord Jesus Christ. He loves what is noble and elevated in the world because he loves God.

The restoration of Christian civilization will be effected by those non-egalitarian souls with a hierarchical spirit who always wants to see, know, and love what is more sublime and elevated. This includes language, the dress of thought.

You are so right. I personally need to mind my words for they have fallen to poor repair. Some twit comments that this was an arrogant article. Hardly arrogant, but painful when it hits home so well. I shall undertake to mend my ways for my freedom of speech is not diminished through the use of polite speech.

It's a matter of tradition; they've been around for a long time and people adore them. To get rid of them in one swift kick i think would be a bad move.

I think adore is a bit strong. Affection for the Royals seems to increase in proportion to geographic distance. Certainly if it were put to a popular vote in Britain, the monarchy would stand a good chance of being abolished, according to polls I've seen.

I didn't insinuate anything ... my point was that a lot happened to America in the 1970 - 1980 decade; most of it was not good. You really missed a lot if your main complaint with America in 1980 was the vulgarity of American women. I thought your complaint was trivial; those who had serious problems with America in 1970 didn't bother to return in 1980.

Bwaha, you'lll have o tick it in teh microwave now bro... I be trashed dude... Just got back from the bar damn that tequila taste good after long days work, yep workin on the lor'ds day i'm going to hell... Long day, did ytou see where tigersyee was ab0out to kick my happy arse on the other thread, I wa s shWQtting around with 30 and he goit his dander up! lol! Whew... I don't mess around with that sheeqt... ok done for me ;)

"Cursing is the crutch of a conversational cripple."

I might have to use this quote. Hope you won't mind.

........did ytou see where tigersyee was ab0out to kick my happy arse on the other thread, I wa s shWQtting around with 30 and he goit his dander up! lol! Whew... I don't mess around with that sheeqt... ok done for me ;)

You mean on the In House fighting thread? Jeez, someone tryin' to pick a fight on a thread like that. Of all the nerve ! And I missed it........
I'll see ya later on, I guess..........

It's not my quote (it's unknown) so you're welcome to it. Just use discernment in who you tell it to, k? I used the quote to a couple of boys in a grocery store and they had no idea what 'cursing or conversational' meant. dorks.

Add to my last post...

Kinda of like having a *no soliciting* sign outside the front door but the solicitors don't know what soliciting means. more dorks.

I think adore is a bit strong. Affection for the Royals seems to increase in proportion to geographic distance. Certainly if it were put to a popular vote in Britain, the monarchy would stand a good chance of being abolished, according to polls I've seen.

I wasn't aware of that. Thanks for the info. Do you think that abolishing the monarchy, even via referendum, would be a good idea?

I really don't have a strong opinion on that. If I were British, I think I'd come down on the side of abolition. Or at the very least, scale back the level of subsidy to the royals. A "monarchy-lite" on the level of Norway or Holland, for example might be the way to go. The people who argue strongest for the status quo often use the tourism angle, although I don't think the lack of a monarchy has hurt French or Italian tourism.

But like I said, I'm not British so my opinion doesn't matter. I think the last poll I saw had opinion pretty well split down the middle in Britain, although making such a radical change would probably require a substantial majority in favor for it to reach critical mass. So I don't realistically see it happening any time soon, if ever.

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