Posted on 04/09/2002 8:26:14 PM PDT by RMrattlesnake
As for me and my house.
By Darren Morrison (warning there is truth spoken from God’s word in this essay)
I have had my fill of the world’s philosophies. I have been told how to best live all my life and as of yet the info has not stopped coming in. I have been told to live this way and to live that way. To raise my children this way and that. How to have a better marriage and how to be happier. Well that info for the most part is as about as worthless as the little mounds of stuff in a cow pasture. I am talking about the books upon books about self-improvement. The advice you get from know-it-all friends. Radio programs and infomercials that offer you your dreams for only 3 payments of 100.00 Dollars each. Everyone is looking for answers but they will not look in the one place they can be found; the Bible, yes the very word of God.
The Bible warns us about where we get our advice. Psalms 1:1. Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. Personally I avoid advice from non-believers. Whatever the KJV of the Bible says is enough for me and I will take it 100% whenever a man says something I can choose whether I believe it or not. When you do follow the advice from someone, be careful. Proverbs 16:25. There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death. As you can see the warnings in the Bible are very clear on this.
I have lived a life that was counter to Gods teaching out of ignorance and of disobedient. I was one who thought of myself as a free thinker and I lived according to any philosophy that sounded good. In my marriage I we had what was an equal partnership there was no head of the house. A philosophy I picked up from the Baha’i Faith . This idea was flawed and it wreck my marriage. Yes I tried this non biblical idea and it was okay for me at first because I could shrug my responsibility off on her. Soon we were in a financial nightmare and other areas of our marriage was messed up. In my attempts to create a non-dysfunctional family I created a big one. A family without leadership is dysfunctional from the get go. As a direct result to this philosophy our marriage ended up in a divorce with two very hurt people and two very confused kids.
Other area’s in my life that I went against God was in sexual purity. I listen to my buddy’s in school and it was “if it feels good do it.“ Well I did just that and left women being used and hurt from my attention and when I got what I wanted they got my rejection. Looking back on that there is much to be ashamed of. I treated woman as objects or I became so obsessed with them that they became like an idol. That latter led into pornography and an addiction I struggle with even to this day. By paying for pornography I now know I was paying for the abuse of women used in that industry. To top it all of my marriage bed was not pure and while in the Philippines I committed adultery. In my mind what I was doing was harmless male fun. But the affect it had on the one person I loved the most was scaring. Yes I hurt my wife and I loved her but how was she to ever believe that or trust me. If I had listened to God’s word then I could have avoided that all together.
Raising children is another area. I neglected God’s word. Doing the things that lea to a divorce also led my kids through roads they should never traveled. They had gone to public schools up until last year. They had been in foster homes and had had there lives turned upside down. All because of my ignorance.
But something wonderful, had happened in January of 1994. I repented of my sin and accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and savior. When you do that it is not as if poof you’re right and everything gets better. No I had to do what was right by God now. I started by placing the blame solely on myself. I was hurting inside because of the Divorce so I used that to motivate me to correct my wrongs. I prayed every night and every morning as I woke up. I began to write Vicki often to tell her how sorry I was. I would preach at her and try to get her saved. At the time I realized that because of the hurts I caused I might never reconcile my marriage. Sometimes I over stepped my bounds and some times I got a little pushy but I was a babe in Christ at the time and I was doing the best I could with what I knew and God honored that.
A few years latter Vicki finally can to repentance and accepted the Lord as her savior. Over time we learned to be more obedient to God. This obedient lead to our remarriage. If I had listened to other people’s advice that union would have never taken place. Instead I listen to God. When you listen to God instead of men great unbelievable things can happen. The fact that my family is whole is only proof of God’s great work in mine and Vicki’s lives. God says in Matthew 19: 26. But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible. If you knew us and knew the condition or marriage was in you would know that it was only though God’s work. I can not take credit.
Now I run my home according to God’s word. I raise my sons up a Godly way. Proverbs 22: 6. Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. That is why we homeschool our kids. How can I train them up in the way they should go when the public school is teaching moral relativism. As for me and my wife we tried it the world’s way and it did not works but God’s was in working. That way in talked about in the bible and it says. Ephesians 5:21. Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. That what we do and I know modern feminists don’t like it but that is the truth. God said it I believe it and that is that. Now I must be obedient to God and must consider my wife’s needs and give myself to her, Her needs become my needs.
Last of all I must say this. This is my house this is my home and this is my family and I will run things God’s way. One of my life verses and one I hold dear to my heart. This is the very part of the bible I rebuilt my family on. Joshua 24 :15. And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Choose you this day who will you serve. Say that in you mind silently alone. As for Darren and his house he will serve the Lord. I will serve the Lord Jesus Christ and I will do my best to take advice from the holy scriptures. AMEN!
Homeschool family here, too.
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Thanks for the PING, Gramma. Glad I got to read this.
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