Actually, according to my understanding of the scriptures, no he wouldn’t. He is COMMANDED to “Agape” his wife, which is sacrificial love. He is to sacrifice for her and love her as Christ loved the church. He has no “right” to pressure her. She has a responsibility not to deny him frequently, but assuming she loves him and is sincere with her “headache” he should be loving and understanding and ask if there is anything he can do for her. “Can I rub your neck honey? Do you need an Advil? Go lay down and I’ll take care of the kids”. THAT’S LOVE!! And when she is feeling better, she can come around and say, “Hubba, hubba, I’m feeling better”. :) But he has no “Godly” right to pressure. Wrong! He has a “Godly” command to “agape”, to sacrifice, to put off pleasure for the time being because he loves his wife sooooooooo much, it wouldn’t even cross his mind to hurt her.
"If she is a good wife she wouldn't refuse him, even though she had a bad day."
If she is a good wife she wouldn’t refuse him????? If he was a good husband, he wouldn’t be so selfish! Actually, it is scriptural to refuse sex for a time, but it needs to be by mutual consent. If a husband loves his wife, he will understand for a little while. The Bible says not to let this time be for too long, otherwise someone might give in to temptation with someone else. See 1 Corinthians 7.
”God gave us power over our spouses. God gave that power to man.”
I disagree with you. God gave no such “power” to a man. He gave him “authority” with specific instructions to “agape” at all times. The man is repeatedly commanded to “agape” his wife, where as the wife is only told one time to “phileo” (affectionate love Titus 2:4) her husband. He told the woman repeatedly to respect her husband, but he told the husband repeatedly to LOVE his wife.
God told men to LOVE because he knew they could be selfish, thoughtless cads and have a problem with agape love. God told women to be respectful of their husbands because he knew they could be bitter, stubborn and self-willed.
That's where it is!!! Thanks.