[John O]

I understand that they choose not to date, but that is not my question. I'm asking you what would you do if they chose TO date. What would your reaction be? Would you let them?

Good. I wanted to be sure you understood so far.

So far I've been talking of the kids in the church youth group. I'll answer the rest of this about my own kids. (far too young to even consider dating. My daughter is 13 months and my son's not born yet)

What would I do if they chose to date? I'd lay down some serious rules and then let them. I'd explain why dating was a waste of their time and would get in the way of their relationship with God and then I'd let them make their choice. (as long as they were 16 years of age or above that is)

I would also have first right of refusal for anyone they were taking out or going out with. If I don't approve of the person, they don't date them. (My house my rules). Of course they would honor and respect me enough to really listen because I will raise them right.

GSA(P)

[John O]

Addendum:

They already choose not to date. They were not forced or compelled into not dating. They chose not to date.

GSA(P)

[Jadge]

"I would also have first right of refusal for anyone they were taking out or going out with. If I don't approve of the person, they don't date them. (My house my rules). Of course they would honor and respect me enough to really listen because I will raise them right."

I hope we can speak again in 16 years, and you can tell me how it went. I wonder if you'll keep your approach or adopt a new one.

Just to be clear, I do not have a problem with pre-marital sex, but I think 16 is way too young. 18 is often too young. There is a lot of emotional baggage that surrounds the act for both parties, and it can be difficult for an immature mind to handle. Confusion reigns supreme, and bad decisions are made as a result. Mature adults who understand the decision they are making, and the possible consequences, are the ones I support.