Posted on 07/11/2025 4:38:34 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum
And how to bring them back.
In a recent New York Times article titled, “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back,” Rachel Drucker laments what she calls “a collective shift” in men, a “slow vanishing of presence.” So many single men, she writes, aren’t “sitting across from someone on a Saturday night, trying to connect.” Instead, they “have retreated from intimacy, hiding behind firewalls, filters and curated personas, dabbling and scrolling.” She adds, “We miss you.”
Ms. Drucker – a single, 54-year-old Chicagoan – hints that pornography is at least partly to blame for this state of affairs. She mentions that she herself spent years working in that field as the custodian of records for Playboy and its affiliated hardcore properties. She worked closely with marketing teams to understand “what cues tempt the average 18-to-36-year-old cis heterosexual man. What drew him in. What kept him coming back.” She learned that it wasn’t intimacy or mutuality, but “access to simulation.”
Now many men, she believes, have “quietly withdrawn from intimacy and vulnerability” into “indifference.” The sexes have moved, she observes, into an era when traditional courting has devolved into “directionless orbiting,” “men circling intimacy but never entering it… ‘seeing where it goes’ without ever going anywhere.” She even mourns the “unscripted contact” of one-night stands.
She concludes by pleading men, “You can still come back. We’re still here, those of us who are willing to cocreate something true… And we haven’t stopped hoping.”
The male retreat from the courting dance of days past is a tragedy, but so is Ms. Drucker’s obliviousness to the reasons for it. Yes, pornography is a huge factor; the ubiquitous availability of the most explicit imagery imaginable (and even unimaginable) to anyone with an internet connection is a terrible scourge in our society – and not...
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Misogynist: Someone who hates women as much as they hate each other.
Interestingly, I had a text snippet of that Hammond analysis that I have used on FR for years, and...I was unable to open it on my own computer.
Then, when I looked for it on the Internet via Google or DuckDuckGo, I could not find the text.
It was only when, after reading many returns from those search engines, searched for Dr. Peter Hammond, and although I was unable to find the verbiage, I did find links to links to links that eventually I found...one that I could copy. I am sure it is still in his book...if that can be found.
I found it interesting that I was unable to find direct links to that analysis as I had done so, effortlessly, quite often in the past.
Interesting.
Islam is the strong horse so you'll see some people convert to their faith. It's human nature to do that.
Elon Musk is going to have to establish a colony on Mars before we become 100% Islamic.
I’m beginning to think being 100% invisible to women all my life has apparently been a blessing in disguise.
Bkmk
Correct.
Stopped right there. If it's the New York Times, it's Leftist propaganda and untrue.
Ms. Drucker – a single, 54-year-old Chicagoan...
She's 54 and expecting men to “sit across from her on a Saturday night, trying to connect”. No thank you. That's a hard no. You should be sitting across from the husband you don't have, Ms. Drucker.
Ms. Drucker... hints that pornography is at least partly to blame for this state of affairs. She mentions that she herself spent years working in that field as the custodian of records for Playboy and its affiliated hardcore properties.
So, and ex-pornographer wonders why men won't go near her.
...to understand “what cues tempt the average 18-to-36-year-old cis heterosexual man.
Anyone using the term "cis" should remain alone. It's a broadcast to others that she's mentally unwell, like the chirp of the smoke detector in a single mother's apartment.
She concludes by pleading men, “You can still come back. We’re still here, those of us who are willing to cocreate something true...
Cocreate? Cocreate what? Delusion? You've passed your chances to "co-create" a long time ago, Ms. Drucker.
...And we haven’t stopped hoping.”
Hopium is the drug that got you her here, Ms. Drucker. There was always someone better going to come along. You deserved better. You go kween. You're a boss babe. Well, that Hopium led you to BACODA - Buy A Cat Or Die Alone.
Meanwhile men are failing by almost every social metric, from education to the workplace.
Or succeeding, which is why the propagandists are paying people to write this. It's not the pornography on the internet that's a factor, it's that women took the opportunity to show their true selves and men aren't buying. We don't have an education system, we have an indoctrination system, and men failing at it is a very positive indicator. “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” ― J. Krishnamurti
The workplace has been nothing but a means to control men through a paycheck. The power brokers want men feminized because the power brokers know what they're doing to society and fear backlash.
...unfortunately driving millions of young men into the embrace of such online influencers as former kickboxer Andrew Tate.
Unfortunately? Can't have young men hearing the truth, regardless of where it's coming from.
...Tate flaunts a cartoonish vision of masculinity centered on flashy materialism and the violent domination and sexual exploitation of women.
Which is it, cartoonish, or violent domination and sexually exploitive? They can mock Andrew Tate all they want but the message stands. Men are suckers to continue playing this game.
...wondering why so many men have chosen to disengage, to guard themselves emotionally, financially, and physically behind a variety of walls.
That's the image they want to paint, that men are guarding themselves behind walls. No, they're out in the open, just not wasting time in "feminine spaces".
If women want men to come back...
Women don't want men to come back. They got what they wanted - someone to pay their bills and the bills for their bastard children. Daddy government is acceptable to them for that.
The propagandists are pushing the narrative that men should come back because the power brokers need their tax and debt slaves to keep the system running. Good luck with that.
We must stop smearing traditional masculinity as toxic and oppressive...
There's no such thing as "traditional" masculinity; there's just masculinity and pretending there are different versions is why no one trusts the propagandists anymore. Call it anything you want - men aren't listening anymore.
...quit devaluing traditional femininity as demeaning and imprisoning...
There's also no such thing as "traditional" feminity; there's just feminity and again, pretending there are different versions is why no one trusts the propagandists anymore.
The decades-long push to eradicate any differences between masculinity and femininity, to blur even their very definitions, has wrought nothing but misery, confusion, and resentment, and must be abandoned.
Yet it brought clarity that hadn't been seen in a century - hence the determination to censor it.
I had 3 daughters with my Wife, we divorce when two were moved out and going to College or Married, the youngest she sloughed off to live with her friend and the parents. I was still paying child support, and no children were living with the Mother.
The biggest killer is, the Mom is living alone, and she has all of the Holidays, or if the Kids host, she comes to them all. In short, I am cut out, because she still will not let go of her craven need to control.
If I want to participate, I have to do it with my Ex of 30 years.
"Satire 6" by Juvenal A.D. 110
Someone smarter than I wrote once that no one has adequately studied and reported upon the psychological and emotional harm done to men whose children were taken from them in divorce.
- Alexis de Tocqueville (1805-1859)
How I met your Mother, man hoes.
Toxic feminism is to blame.
My nephew got a Doctorate in Computer sciences, he cannot find a job coding, or whatever, in WA state. His Wife works as a Teacher, and he works part time at a Staples. He is fully Cucked, and she is a screaming witch.
If a man can't pay child support, he's thrown in prison. If a woman can't pay child support the government forces taxpayers to give her money, housing, and even transportation.
A woman can kill an unborn child and the father has no legal right to stop her from killing his offspring.
A woman can terminate the life of the child she doesn't want to continue carrying without the father having any say. Why should a woman have any say when a man doesn't want to pay for a child he doesn't want?
A woman can lie about paternity of a child without fear of being charged for paternity fraud and the state can even force the cucked father to continue paying for a child PROVEN to not be his.
The state forces men to pay child support with zero confirmation that the money is being spent on the child.
A woman can falsely accuse a man of rape and when caught lying will face no charges.
How many private residences have you seen with a urinal installed?
A doctor is required to get a wife's approval before a husband gets a vasectomy but can prescribe birth control or abort a child without the husband knowing.
Men can only show aggression when it's in the service of government.
Women are not subject to the draft, yet hold office and can vote to send men to die in war.
“It was always the women, and above all the young ones, who were the most bigoted adherents of the Party, the swallowers of slogans, the amateur spies and nosers-out of unorthodoxy.” - George Orwell ‘1984’
Whatever aspect of maleness that serves the feminine purpose is a man's masculine responsibility, yet any aspect that disagrees with feminine primacy is labeled Patriarchy, "Male Privilege", or Misogyny.
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