Thank you. I could feel the empathy through your words. Thank you.
So today, we went to the facillity that he’s had experience with, his dad and his wife, in the past. But before we did that he told me he had second thoughts because he really likes the house where he is. He has it laid out exactly the way he likes it.
Then, he said he ought to at least look and see what’s available. So off we went. At that place a nice lady came out and told us what the process is and gave us an admittance packet. I was not surprised that we’d need a doctor’s reference. You reinforced that as well. The doc has been telling him he will need to move into such a facillity so I don’t think that will be a difficulty.
But, while there, they had information about a related service which has single rooms, bedroom & living quarters, and two-bedroom apartments. It has outside areas, a nice wooded walking trail. Since the apartments have kitchens with them, he could cook when he wishes.
It had started raining/pouring and we didn’t stop to tour that place. Even so, Dad liked what he saw.
Neither has anything available today. Also, this is such a big decision for him that I am not going to push him. Frankly, I want Dad to do exactly what he wants to do, not necessarily what is best for him. I would rather he fall doing what he pleases than sit around and be bored and bitter even if that extends his life. Everybody dies. It is better to die happy.
“But, while there, they had information about a related service which has single rooms, bedroom & living quarters, and two-bedroom apartments. It has outside areas, a nice wooded walking trail. Since the apartments have kitchens with them, he could cook when he wishes.”
If your dad is still pretty independent I think he would like a place like this over a nursing home. I hope you can take him back to tour it.
I have said before my husbands BIL resisted but his daughter finally got him to give it a try for a least a year before he sold his house. He absolutely loved being there. He was a people person and he was then able to socialize a lot.