Posted on 11/25/2022 5:31:51 AM PST by karpov
“This is going to ruin your life.” “You have to drop out of college.” “This is a mistake.” “Abort the baby .”
These words, uttered by people whom I trusted and loved most in this world, struck me like a knife.
When I learned I was pregnant , I was 21 years old and still in school. I was engaged to be married, and while those two pink lines came as a complete shock, I wanted to be a mother.
My feelings were overlooked by those close to me. Rather than offering support, my family and friends responded with criticism and doubt. It was Thanksgiving Day, and my fiance at the time told me to abort the baby and that we could "try again after we got married.” When I insisted on keeping my child, he abandoned me.
Scared, alone, and with no support, I stumbled upon the Pregnancy Resource Center of Rolla, Missouri. I sought out a free ultrasound, which was one of the many services it provided. While there, I met Jane Dalton, who served as the center’s client services director. I told her my situation, and in turn, she asked me what I wanted.
I wanted to be a mother — and a good one at that. But I also wanted to finish school and become financially self-sufficient. Jane told me that I could do all of those things and that the PRC would be there to help.
I soon moved into the maternity home connected to PRC and was immediately surrounded by love and support from complete strangers rather than the fear of family and friends that my life would hold less value as a mother.
(Excerpt) Read more at washingtonexaminer.com ...
Eject the fiance... or have the child grow up with a “father” that wanted him/her dead.
Nice post! The trauma women experience with abortion is deep and lasts a lifetime. Reminder for me to get into the prc here since I moved.
I think she can still sue to get child support from the sperm donor. Since when is 21 too young to have a baby? It may be inconvenient timing, but hardly cradle robbing. There’s a lot of advantages to be a 42 year old grandma.
Whatever we may think of him, the father has rights.
And the biggest is to keep it in his pants if he’s not ready for the consequences, and should be paying support.
Re: 5 - Maybe, depending on the state.
He also likely has a legal obligation to support that child.
Wonder if he has now done the right thing. We know he previously didn’t when he would not accept responsibility for his child.
Turned to God without ever once mentioning the Savior (or acknowledging her own sin) who is the way ,the truth and the life, and the only way back to God for every one of us sinners.
I clicked on the link and read the story.
She married the son of the Dalton’s.
Whatever we may think of him, the father has responsibilities.
‘Turned to God without ever once mentioning the Savior (or acknowledging her own sin)’
what sin, exactly, did she commit...?
AND responsibilities.
Depends on the state. Some places two years of non-support and no involvment with the child, and rights can be terminated. Sometimes that's better for the child and mother than the constant fight to get a few dollars from a deadbeat.
More interesting, and certainly more rare, are the cases where the mother hoofs it and dumps the child on the father.
His rights don’t include murdering his baby
Another immaculate conception?
Precisely. IF you don’t want a child don’t engage in behavior that leads to babies
Even as a male, I received the same messaging from peers, “it’ll ruin your life”. While not my decision the sentiment was the same, “if she has the kid you’re done”.
She decided to have the child, we married 31 years ago. This son is now married to a wonderful wife and they have given us 2 amazing grandkids. We were under 20 at the time, so we’re very young grandparents...which makes it all the more fun.
It made me who I am today, I would not be the same person otherwise. Making it through college while working, trying to pay the rent and put food on the table was incredibly hard. I didn’t always succeed. Nobody cared about my ‘white privilege’...things may be different for me now but I know where I came from.
Somehow that “privilege” is reserved for women. Makes no sense.
She might think she is noble and good for choosing life, but she is not.
Placing the child for adoption may be the best choice.
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