It can be problematic and you know that probably and it’s not simply from assholes
It’s just complicated
It also depends where u live
Whitelandia is easier in my mind as a place to deal with it
Kids need parents and your adopted are blessed
The example I have in my extended family was to make a point by my Kumbaya relatives they are rich
And it’s been problematic
And it’s where blacks torment them
It’s pitiable to be honest
Kids need homes but as you know good intentions may not guarantee outcome
Even in birth kids
Adoption is good bad and ugly I’m not sure the stats but my family experience is mixed
I also learned something else
You are a lot of what you are by heredity
Humanist hate that except for gays
I’m ambivalent
Glad it worked for your family
Thank you for your measured response Wardaddy.
I knew there would be some issues. Living in “whitelandia” made some things easier. Except those pesky lesbians lol. The kids do well here. People are people and every one has an opinion. They were not everyone’s cup of tea. But who is.
They were taught not to melt over certain words. But to use that information to make a choice about the people uttering them.
The racism of low expectations was a bigger problem coupled with people who were over the top because of their twisted sense of affirmative action. Had to get them out of those environments fast.
I think they are doing better than they would otherwise. The culture they were raised in was the first truly inclusive one of western civilization. Christianity.
Hereditary means a lot. I see it in all four.
My kids spend time with with other white identified blacks occasionally. American blacks don’t enter in the picture much. One kid had the southern college attended practically fore her into their black social group. She lasted about ten minutes. They didn’t fit.
Otoh she ended up engaged to her white roommate’s wealthy neighbor at the end of her time there.
That was almost 15 years ago. The world is more twisted today
Thanks for having the stones to talk about this - I have always been a nature/genes more than nurture kind of guy based on life experience and my own family of origin. Too many well meaning Christians believe that human beings are a “blank slate” and that good upbringing can compensate fully for genetic family of origin issues.