Posted on 04/28/2022 1:38:57 AM PDT by where's_the_Outrage?
A father has gone viral for admitting that he recently told his "bratty" 19-year-old daughter that she can either start babysitting her cousin or start paying rent.
Posting in Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" (AITA) forum under the username u/FunnyChef7259, the father asked: "AITA for making my eldest daughter babysit even though she is 'child-free?'" The post has received more than 10,000 upvotes and has divided over 3,000 commenters.
At the beginning of his post, the father explained that he and his wife have three children—Tina, Jason and Ally. Late last year, after his sister-in-law passed away, the couple also took in their 4-year-old niece, whose father is "not in the picture.".....
"A few weeks ago there were big changes in our childcare coverage and now we lack coverage for about two-and-a-half hours [Monday through Friday]," the father continued. "Jason and Ally both agreed to take one day of the week for babysitting duties, when we asked Tina to take on the other three, she refused, stating she is child-free and means it.".....
"YTA [you're the a**hole]. You and your wife decided to take her in, you are responsible for caring for her. Not your daughter," said u/silfy_star. "Tbh, you're punishing her for your decision and choices, though there [are] certainly compromises to be made here related to cutting expenses."
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Now I'm raising my daughter "My house, my rules."
Respect.
No “background noise”
I’d watch another 4 year old, no problem.
She’s getting free room and board. Looking after a family member for a few hours 3 days per week is very little to ask in return. From an early age, I and my brother and sisters had chores/tasks we had to do. It taught us that we were not just entitled to everything at no cost....our parents were not our slaves. We needed to pitch in too. That’s a valuable lesson. The 19 year old daughter appears to need to learn that lesson.
This is useless without pictures.
He already failed with his daughter. She should not be trusted watching a child. One hope would be that if they pay someone to watch the child his daughter will feel some guilt and come around.
“when we asked Tina to take on the other three, she refused, stating she is child-free and means it.”.....”
My response “well it looks in 24 hours you’ll be homeless and free too.” She’s not be trusted, for either quality child care, or rent.
When I look back at my “era” - I (and most everybody I knew) couldn’t wait to get out of the house and get on with it, I loved my mom and dad but you know they were getting up towards retirement and I didn’t want to be an interference with that, so I went to work after HS, a bit of community college and went into the military at 21 after I got out of the construction game, bricklaying (mud monkey), house painting and fixing that pos F-250.
I will need to see a picture of the 19 YO perp to determine guilt or innocence.
F-250s are not POS’s.
Tina needs to get out and grow up. And she’s not someone I’d trust to watch a tot.
My parents gave me a choice. They could have spotted me the funds for college, being they were loaded. I could have had a house off-campus on Day 1. Instead, I went to work and in a couple of years I bought my own house — without a loan from anyone. In the process I learned things you never learn in a college classroom.
Once you’re out of diapers, Tina, family is not your retinue and your free ride. You contribute to the extent of your abilities. Down the road, maybe you take in your elders and diaper them. Then it’s your turn and someone’s cleaning you off again. And so it goes. Not that you aren’t special. Just that everyone is.
Reminds me of my 15 year old daughter, but at least we’re forcing her to have some responsibility, like it or not.
I was raised in, and raised my own children by the golden rule:
He who has the gold makes the rules. Get your own gold you can have your own rules.
✔
Both of our adult kids still live with us. The youngest is 29. For their own heads I want them to start getting ready to get out on their own but for now they pay room and board monthly and have to ask if they are having friends visit. Our house our rules.
Some of my friends think I’m mean. One of my friends allowed his 22 year old son’s girl friend to move in. Now my friends wife babysits their new set of twins. I mean my friend did tell his son not to get inseminate his gf! My friend doesn’t quite see that his son, his gf and their kids will be living with them forever. It is plain as day.
“He who has the gold makes the rules. “
I been telling my daughter that golden rule for years.
How is she 19 and not already been paying rent, or room and board?
As soon as we got our first job, my parents required 25% of our take home pay for room and board.
I caught them by surprise when my first tax refund came and they were expecting 25% and I reminded them that they said “take home pay”. They just looked at each other kind of speechless, ( a rare event and quite an accomplishment on my part) then chuckled and said that I was right.
I think it was then they realized they had raised me right in at least one regard.
I support parents over moocher teens, but I don’t support attention whoring parents.
This is “news” now?
Reddit troll posts?!
Good golly...what’s with parents asking hundreds of MILLIONS of faceless, anonymous internet trolls for parenting advice?
Man up and be a parent, FGS.
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