Maybe anecdotal, but the “shame” seems most prevalent among my Catholic friends. Some have said it’s God settling a score for earlier sins. Had a friend some 35ish years ago have a child born with severe birth defects. The child died within b.c. a few days. The Catholic paternal grandfather asked them what sin they did to disappoint God.
What an @ss.
That is deranged thinking and that grandfather was beyond a jerk to say such a thing. In fact, I’d say only a sociopath would pose a question like that to people who had and lost a handicapped baby.