My mom told me I was not an only child by choice but did not go into details and I never asked. She died in 1996 so I will never know.
sometimes the long form birth certificate tells how many pregancies to how many live births a woman has had Para means pregnancy gravida means live birth
Depending on what one believes (and I Never assume all people believe the same), you may know one day.
But it is sad to think about what could have been.
My son kept asking for a little brother. I didn’t tell him until he had been an adult for several years, that I hadn’t been able to have another child. He felt terrible, but I told him I knew at the time that he wasn’t being hurtful. But I did wait to tell him until he was old enough so he could understand more what had happened.
The saddest part for me back then was when I told my dad that last time, and he started crying. But he and my mom sure did adore our son.