Posted on 11/29/2018 12:54:27 PM PST by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
Every Wednesday, the second hour of my national radio show is the “Male/Female Hour.” A few weeks ago, a woman named Jennifer called in.
For reasons of space, I have somewhat shortened her comments. Every young woman should read them. This is precisely what she said:
“Dennis, I want to get right to it. I’m 50 years old with four college degrees. I was raised by a feminist mother with no father in the home. My mother told me get an education to the maximum level so that you can get out in the world, make a lot of money. And that’s the path I followed. I make adequate money. I don’t make a ton of money. But I do make enough to support my own household.
“I want to tell women in their 20s: Do not follow the path that I followed. You are leading yourself to a life of loneliness. All of your friends will be getting married and having children, and you’re working to compete in the world, and what you’re doing is competing with men. Men don’t like competitors. Men want a partner. It took me until my late 40s to realize this.
“And by the time you have your own household with all your own bills, you can’t get off that track, because now you’ve got to make the money to pay your bills. It’s hard to find a partner in your late 40s to date because you also start losing self-confidence about your looks, your body. It’s not the same as it was in your 20s. You try to do what you can to make your life fulfilling. I have cats and dogs. But it’s lonely when you see your friends having children, going on vacations, planning the lives of their children, and you don’t do anything at night but come home to your cats and dogs. I don’t want other women to do what I have done.”
I asked, “Was it hard for you to make this call?”
She responded: “It was. I want to be anonymous because I don’t want people that I know to really know my true feelings. Because you do act like ‘My career is everything. I love working.’ But it’s a lie on the inside for me. It’s unfortunate. I didn’t realize this until it’s too late. I don’t know if it’s too late. I would like to find somebody to go on vacation with.
“You have other concerns when you get older and you live alone. Who’s going to take you to your medical appointments? If something should happen to you, there’s no other income there to help you. These are things you don’t understand when you’re in your 20s because you don’t think you’ll ever get old and have health problems.
“I’m stuck now because I go to work every day. I smile like I love it, but it’s very painful to not plan a vacation with someone. It’s painful to not have a Thanksgiving dinner with someone. You sit home alone and you do nothing. I avoid my friends now that have children because I have nothing in common with them.
“Somebody asked me the other day, ‘Why did you stay single and never have kids?’ There’s answers: Because I was brainwashed by my mother into this. But it’s hard and it’s shameful to tell people, ‘I don’t know. I ran out of time.’
“There’s not a good answer for it except: ‘I was programmed to get into the workforce, compete with men, and make money.’ Supposedly, that would be a fulfilling life. But I was told that by a feminist mother who was divorced, who hated her husband—my father.
“She tried to steer me on what she thought was the right path, but feminism is a lie. That’s what I want women to know.
“I didn’t realize this until late in life. I want to tell women: Find someone in your 20s. That’s when you’re still very cute. That’s when you’re still amiable to working out problems with someone. It’s harder in your 50s, when you’ve lived alone, to compromise with someone, to have someone in your home and every little thing about them annoys you because you’re so used to being alone. It’s hard to undo that, so don’t do what I did. Find someone in your 20s.”
I said, “I’m thinking of transcribing your call and making it a column.”
“Do that, Dennis. I want to help whoever I can,” she said.
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There have been many nights when I would have preferred to come home to my library, my pipe, and my woofer.
How do you know how many I realize?
Women's life cycles amaze me. Just about the time their looks start to fade their libidos really kick in. It's as if they're designed for lifelong relationships.
Agree.
I think my wife loves me, we take great care of each other... but she would also be quite content living alone; she just likes her own company.
We’re both only kids, neither of us really ‘need’ another person to feel fulfilled, it’s just that life is a lot easier equally yoked as a team working towards the same goal(s).
Beats the needy clingers who would never be happy without the constant attention of a spouse (fits my previous serious girlfriends to a ‘T’); I think we both feel ‘if you aren’t happy with yourself, by yourself, you can’t really be happy with another person; happiness comes from inside. Of course neither of us likes children, so that helps.
I don’t. It was a rhetorical statement.
She was just fulfillingnpart of the communist manifesto. Like others were and are, too.
My heart goes out to this woman... she is in my prayers...
You are wrong.
I have three degrees. It is not uncommon. I have dual undergraduate degrees, Math and Economics. It is very easy because instead of getting a major and minor you just choose the classes to get the dual. No increase in numbers, just specialization.
I also have a masters in one. She could very well have a PhD in one also. That would be four degrees.
The more important question is what are the degrees in? A PhD in abstract painting would not be as productive as one in Chemistry.
Like so much in the Western world....this used to be common sense.
I can’t understand why it’s “hard” to find a man. Seems like she is just too picky. You have to like them first.
10,000 days old 27.4 perfect, looks and body good, some life experience but still flexible in life.
I’m sure she has other baggage, not discussed, but it’s a good-deed she is doing telling it like it is.
Back in the 70s there was a women who gathered some other women who all worked to open people's minds to the evils of feminism. They fought against the Equal Rights Amendment being passed in Congress. They got lambasted but did prevail and the ERA was finally rejected. That woman was Phyllis Schlafly.
If is had not been for her and her Eagles we would have had to fight the whole LBGTQ crap a lot sooner than we are now fighting it.
I got married at 38. Been VERY happily divorced for 20 years now...
“Feminism at its core is an anti fertility cult.”
Good point. They call it ‘choice’ regarding whether to have kids, but even if they didn’t know then, they sure as hell know now that this ‘choice’ is DESTROYING societies that embrace it by cutting the birthrate so low that simply won’t be any Western societies left in another couple of generations.
And I have yet to hear a single feminist have an issue with that outcome.
True, Mary Tyler Moore was married which is ironic as that show was the beginning of portraying single life as fun.
Protip: if you live in California, and it has become obvious it's not working out, do NOT wait until you've been married 7 years. At that magic point, California law assumes that being associated with a man permanently ruins a woman ability to make her way in the big scary world, and alimony payments NEVER expire until one of you do!
“Boomer men like myself looked abroad for more traditional relationships.”
Myself too, with a great wife and great kids, with the boys now looking abroad too! And all the feminist chicks got out of it was some pump-and-dump men in their earlier years.
“Yet, she would probably do it all over again.”
Yep, it’s hard to imagine her succumbing to the horrible beasts called ‘men’. Still sad, though.
You really need to step back from time to time & check your ideology. you can’t let it override your common sense.
A lot of good women got hurt by this mindset & the sexual revolution...which is a whole other issue.
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